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Chris, Still in Detroit

Chris, Still in Detroit

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This will be the first escort I get to admit the following: I fucked him.

I’d arrived at the Detroit Metropolitan Wayne County Airport and logged into BarebackRT.com’s mobile site Open-New-Window-External and did a little geo-search to find him relatively close. I let him know I wanted to breed him.

iBLASTinside's Escort Bareback ConfessionsI skipped his BBRT profile’s Open-New-Window-External chunky parts — all about him being an escort and being professional. Oddly enough, it’s a cardinal sin in my book when others skip over my text and message me, begging for my cock but missing the part about who I will and will not fuck Opens new window of a page on this blog. Then again, if you saw his sweet ass, wouldn’t you skip over it and just go to wanting to fuck him?

Good thing Chris is a forgiving sort of guy.

As my day and evening advanced, Chris got another opportunity — this one for cash. He started to cancel. And that’s when I noticed the whole escort thing.

Good news: We met. We fucked.

And afterward, Chris agreed to an interview.

He didn’t agree to a review. I’m giving that anyway. I don’t think he’ll mind.

UPDATE from JULY 2013: Chris informed me he was moving to Orlando in July 2013. So the city with all the magic is getting some super magical hot man.

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QuestionHow long have you been escorting?
Chris-in-DetroitAnswerI have been doing it off and on since 2007.

QuestionWhen did you start?

AnswerI began escorting in November of 2007 shortly after I graduated college. I had been in a relationship with a prominent older guy who decided to leave me after I graduated. I was unable to find a career in my degree field and decided to give it a chance. I was living in Orlando, which was a very good town to escort in with a significant amount of business travelers visiting for conventions.

QuestionWhy escort? You’re a damn smart guy with two degrees.

AnswerI do have two degrees, both of which can yield a great income, but I really enjoy meeting the people that I do through escorting. I enjoy the time I share with them and the need I fulfill for them. The clients I meet are always more than pleased not only with my looks, but the fact that I am extremely intelligent.

QuestionHave you always barebacked?

AnswerI have always barebacked.  Call it my guilty pleasure.  I don’t try to hide it by saying, “Safe sex only.” I’m honest about it. Nothing more intimate than having a client inside me raw and giving me his load.

QuestionDo most clients ask for barebacking?

AnswerI would have to say that while not all clients ask for it, most clients do it. It seems to me the ones that insist on safe sex only, are the ones that go at it raw.

95% Bottom, 100% Hot

QuestionDo you top or bottom or both? What’s your preference?

AnswerDefinitely 95 percent bottom here. It is rare that I top. I know my role is cum dump for tops. I prefer it and I own it.  Nothing satisfies me more than being on all fours with a guy unloading in me from behind.

QuestionWhen someone cums in your ass, do you experience jizzjoy Open-New-Window-External ?

AnswerThat is a definite yes. Nothing makes sex more complete than having a guy shoot his load in me. I don’t even care if I get off after that, that is satisfaction enough for me.

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CHRIS IN DETROIT

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(678) 561-3053

Age: 30
Sign: Leo
Height: 6 feet 1 inches (185 cm)
Weight: 193 pounds (88 kilos)
Eyes: Brown
Hair: Black
Body hair: Shaved smooth
Cock: 7½ cut thick

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QuestionWhile you’re 95 percent bottom, you do top. Does breeding an ass turn you on?

AnswerI do enjoy breeding a hot ass. I am picky about who I top though. A younger or same aged, smaller in shape masculine bottom I can toss around is always a good time.

QuestionWith some bottoms, once they shoot a load, the fucking is over. Can you still take cock if you’ve shot?

AnswerYes I can.  Sex isn’t over until the top gets off inside me.  If I have gotten off, I can still take it.

Question What are your clients like?

AnswerThe majority of my clients are aged between 35 and 50 years old. Most are usually married (to women) and definitely professional types visiting the Detroit area.

QuestionDuring an average week, how many clients do you see?

AnswerSome weeks I do five or six appointments; some weeks just a couple.

QuestionAre there types of clients you don’t like?

AnswerI can honestly say I can find something attractive about any client that hires me.  Every situation and every client is different.

QuestionHave you ever turned down a client? Why?

AnswerI have never turned down a client, only turned down potential clients who were into things that I couldn’t help them with (i.e. scat).

QuestionYou’re a fucking good kisser. A lot of escorts don’t kiss. Are there clients you won’t kiss?

AnswerWell, thank you!  I am told I am a great kisser by all of my clients. I have no idea where I learned it; just natural I guess. I will not kiss someone who has bad oral hygiene.

Sports Gear and Gang Fucks

QuestionHas a client ever really turned you on? How?

AnswerI can’t say a specific client that turned me on, but I can say that clients that are into sports gear and leather really turn me on.  Those are my fetishes.  I have a ton of sports gear and clients seems to enjoy being with a real athlete in gear.

QuestionDo you have any fantasies?

AnswerYes I have many fantasies. I’ll tell you a few:

bullet_triangle_blue I would love to be blindfolded in a sling and have several attractive guys use me to completion.  Something about giving up control and not knowing is an exciting thing for me.

bullet_triangle_blue I have an intense fetish for businessmen in suits.  Would like to meet a high powered businessman or CEO and bottom for him in his office while he is still in his suit.

bullet_triangle_blue And probably one of my biggest would be to be used by a college basketball team.  Love guys in basketball shorts for some reason.

QuestionWhat’s the most unusual place you’ve fucked?

AnswerI had a client once who had a baseball player fetish.  He fucked me in a high school baseball field dugout while both of us where in baseball uniforms.  Was pretty hot.

QuestionCare to tell us the most famous person with whom you’ve ever fucked around?

AnswerI can’t tell names.  If I did, I’d lose credibility as a discrete and professional escort. I will say that the professions of people I’ve met range from politicians to priests.

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QuestionWhat’s the biggest cock you’ve taken? The biggest load?

AnswerThe biggest cock I have ever taken was probably a true 10.5 inches nicely thick.  He was a very good looking white guy and didn’t even use lube.  I have no idea how it got in.

The biggest load I can remember has got to be yours.  I was amazed at the amount of cum you shot.  Either that is the norm or I really turned you on.

QuestionAre you sincere my load was the biggest or are you just saying that because of this interview? Explain because some of my readers might think you’re lying.

AnswerWithout going completely into detail, what goes in must come out. I must say, I have never seen that much come back out.

QuestionHow would you describe it being fucked by me? I imagine a few people wonder.

AnswerI really enjoyed it. You like the sort of anonymous scene where I came into a dark hotel room without really seeing what you looked like, other than the pics I had seen. You relied on eating my hole to supply the lube to fuck me. Once you were in, you were very verbal and that is a huge turn on for me.

You knew what you were doing. Definitely a great top.

QuestionAnd for my own personal satisfaction… would you want to be fucked by me again?

AnswerOf course.

QuestionWhat’s your normal rate?

AnswerA normal hour is $250 with me, rates for extended periods run from $400 for 2 hours, $750 for a night, to $2,500 for a weekend.

QuestionWhat’s the most you’ve ever received? 

AnswerI traveled to Hawaii with a prominent businessman for a week and received payment of $5,000

QuestionDo you have a boyfriend?

AnswerNo, while I do enjoy being in a relationship, while being an escort, I enjoy the ability to come and go as I please and not have to answer to anyone.  Plus, I was recently in a relationship that really broke my heart so I’m taking a break.

QuestionDoes your family know you escort?

AnswerNo, funny story though.  I moved to Seattle in 2009 for a guy I met while visiting there.  He knew what I did and I stopped when I moved there, when we broke up in 2010, he decided to tell me my mom that he saved me from a life of prostitution.  I had some explaining to do about that.

Chris-in-Detroit-Jock-AssQuestionHow’d you talk your way out of that one?

Answer(He laughs)  Just kept denying it.

QuestionI met you through BBRT. When I looked around later, Detroit doesn’t seem like a town with a lot of escorts. Is that why you’re there? Because you’re the best piece of ass in town by a long-shot?

AnswerI’m here because my family is in the area and it is where I chose to live for now.  Detroit has a bad reputation, yes it is bad in areas, but it is a great city with a lot of history and the most affluent suburbs in the country.

I know i’m different than the others in the Detroit area that escort.  Plus, there are not many white guys that do this around here, so I definitely have an advantage.

QuestionDo you have a big workout regime?

AnswerDefinitely!  I am at the gym 2 hours a day, 7 days a week.  It is my time to focus on me. I put my ear-buds in and don’t let anything distract me.  Gym time is workout time, not social time.

In addition to the work out regime, I have to eat about 5 or 6 times a day in order to keep my solid build.  I have always had trouble keeping weight on, but I think I have found the right combination.

Looking for a Porn Opportunity

QuestionHave you ever thought about doing porn?

AnswerYes, I would love to do bareback porn.  A gang-bang scene would be ideal, or something with my fetishes. Anyone have connections?  Must be a good market for masculine, muscular jock bottoms with tattoos.

QuestionWhat do you think about stealthing?

AnswerUntil recently, I had no idea what stealthing was.  To be politically correct on this, i’ll say my position is evolving.  The idea is very hot.

QuestionWhat’s with the bald head?

AnswerFirst let me say, I am able to grow hair and have a full head of it.  I just shave it once a week.  The bald head is something that fits my muscular build and my overall look.  It is something I have done since high school.

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I don’t think anyone minds the bald head. I didn’t.

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Greater Boston Jock John Peréz

Greater Boston Jock John Peréz

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Sometimes it’s the photo that gets me.

We’re all visual at our core. Oh, I am an equal opportunity fucker. I will fuck practically anyone Opens new window of a page on this blog under the right conditions. But I’ll admit being especially 

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shallow when it came to John Peréz, better known as “Greater Boston Jock.”

He started following me on Twitter from @GreaterBosJock Follow on Twitter and used the Bareback Brotherhood hashtag #BBBH. But his RentBoy.com profile Link Opens in a New Window notes under Safe Sex he’s “Always Safe.”

After that, I had to find out what was up with this muscle stud. 

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QuestionWhen did you start escorting?

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AnswerI started right out of high school. I hung out with an older crowd of people. A guy I knew who was a stripper at a night club in Providence, RI. That’s where I had my first taste of getting paid for my time. I fell in love with that world and I’m still doing it today nine years later.

QuestionWhat do you like most about escorting?

AnswerI’ll be honest. It’s the endless amount of money I can make at any given time!

Also the different type of men I meet on daily basis: Young, old, married, closeted. You name it, I had it! It does keep me on top of my game with new sexual techniques I can use on my clients over and over again.

Escorting also brought me some new endeavors that I would never have sought out on my own. I been approached by few porn scouts to do solos and videos. (I’m working with them right now as we speak!)  I get to travel more now. I been flown to Los Angeles, D.C., Miami and Dallas just to name a few.

QuestionWhat do you like least about escorting?

AnswerThere are a few things I dislike…

bullet The endless amount of spam I get sent to my phone and e-mail.
bullet Men who call and don’t really want to book you and waste your time. They just ask tons of questions. So I spend most of my days filtering out the good from the bad.

Going Raw with John

QuestionSo tell me, do you bareback?

AnswerThe big question eh? Barebacking!

I’ve been barebacking for a bit, starting a few years ago when it a fad, I guess. Would you call it that? A fad?

Anyway, clients asked me. So I did. I have no problem with it since it was I preferred. It’s like the most common request I get these days.

QuestionDo you like barebacking?

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JOHN PERÉZ

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Age: 26
Sign: Cancer
Height: 5 feet 8 inches (173 cm)
Weight: 189 pounds (86 kilos)
Eyes: Brown
Hair: Black
Body hair: Some brown
Cock: Average size cut

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AnswerI love, love, love barebacking!

The feeling that you get when your pleasuring a man by topping and feeling the control that you have over them! Woof!

Even when I bottom, I can feel there throbbing cock inside me, with every thrust the pump into me! There’s an ecstasy when you get when the top is going to blow there load in you…. I can’t get enough!

QuestionDo you have conditions under which you will bareback and under which you will not?

AnswerI have no conditions that have to be met in order for me to bareback and Truvada Link Opens in a New Window also helps in the barebacking realm of things. (Mark notes: Truvada is the anti-viral cocktail drug approved for use by negative people to prevent possible infection from HIV exposure. Opens new window of a page on this blog)

I ask one question: “Are you neg?”

Based on the way the client answers it, I can gauge how I will respond. Based on the answer to the status question, it can change whether I’m going to top or bottom. 

If the client is undetectable with can flip fuck until the cows come home. If they are poz, I’ll stick to just topping. I’ll bareback with poz and non-poz guys.

QuestionDo you charge more for barebacking?

AnswerI do not charge more for barebacking. I do get tipped extra at the end of the session for it on occasion — usually between an extra $25 to $50.

QuestionHow often do clients ask for it raw?

AnswerAbout every 10 clients, I have I would say seven or eight men prefer or asked to play bareback.

QuestionWhy do you bareback?

AnswerIn today’s society, it’s still considered taboo! Something we should not do… So it gives me a thrilling feeling when I do it!

It also gives a deeper connection with your mate at the time releasing all your inhibitions, which gets me off so easily — multiple times.

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QuestionSo you’re versatile?

AnswerI am versatile. I love getting both ways! Why limit yourself to one? I like options in bed! And going back to my previous statement… I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE barebacking!

QuestionHow much do you cost?

AnswerMy normal rates are $200 for out calls, $800 for overnights and $2,000 for weekends. 

QuestionIs there any particular bareback clients who stand out?

AnswerI do have one memorable client in mind! He was different from the others. He was very passionate with me.

GreaterBostonJock-AssHe didn’t  want the one-hour-let’s-get-down-to-business-and-leave.  He wanted to be romanced and enjoy his time with me. Which oddly enough was fun!

It was different because he didn’t treat it like a transaction. It was more like we were temporary lovers!

QuestionIs escorting your only job?

AnswerI have a full time job. I actually run my own business as a souvenir photographer and I help out some friends selling luxury fur coats.

On occasion you will see me go-go dance at a night club or slinging back some hardcore drinks behind a bar!

QuestionHave you ever stealthed Opens new window of a page on this blog anyone? Has anyone stealthed you?

AnswerSince I ever started escorting, I never stealthed anyone. Unfortunately, I have been stealthed quite a few times… It comes with the territory and the job on hand.

QuestionWhat about doing porn?

AnswerI haven’t done any porn yet but been approached multiple times by porn scouts to do some. I’m interested in Treasure Island Media, Maverick Men and All Real Bareback.

QuestionWhat can a client do that will turn you on?

AnswerThe one thing a client can do is dive right in. Don’t treat like a transaction. Just do with the flow and enjoy the ride!

 

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How to Host a Gay Orgy

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How to Host a Gay Orgy, Content

Pick an Orgy Theme
BulletStrip Poker Opens new window of a page on this blog
Planning Your Space
Security Concerns
Purchasing and Planning Supplies
The Guest List
Scheduling the Orgy
Asking a Guest to Leave
Asking for Money
Orgy Etiquette
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The Orgy Begins
Boosting Sexual Success
Ending the Orgy

 

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Pick an Orgy Theme

Why pick a theme? It’s an orgy! Right?

Every orgy has a theme even if it’s, “Anything goes.” That’s a theme.

Perhaps it’s a “load the birthday boy” or “twentysomething jerkoff” party. It doesn’t matter. Creating a successful orgy means generating some interest.

When I lived in Washington, D.C., I happened to own a home that had a single large room with almost no windows that made it a particularly successful space for hosting orgies. I became quite successful at creating some get-togethers.

A few ideas beyond the traditional conversion party Open-New-Window-External  or jock/bear/twink/leather exclusive get together:

lightbulb_on Friday Fog Fuck Fest
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lightbulb_on Sexy slumber party
lightbulb_on Masquerade party
lightbulb_on Gloryhole Hoe Down
lightbulb_on Underwear exchange orgy
lightbulb_on Russian Roulette orgy Open-New-Window-External

You can make it simple just by restricting age, kind of people, types or anything else. But choosing a theme helps you in restricting your guest list. This is something you will want to do.

Please note that being polite goes a long way to lessen the animosity that could develop. Posting something like, “No fatties and ancient trolls,” will piss off some queens who’ve been used to attacks. Therefore these bitterness-containers may target your gathering by pretending to be someone else and then wrecking havoc or, worse, creating a security risk by informing the local homophobic hate groups.

Don’t laugh. I’ve seen it happen. And truth be told, I’ve had an asshole host cause (a younger, less mature) me to send dozens of people to his house and ruin his orgy (he was a fortysomething man hosting only svelte, blond twentysomethings with treasure trails, although his invite didn’t say as much). When he uninvited me, he wasn’t delicate and polite.

RULE #1 of GOOD ORGY HOSTING
Don’t Be an Asshole.

Your orgy theme needs to reflect the kind of debaucherous experience you want to occur, even if it’s an impromptu sex encounter with a few locals.

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Planning Your Space

Gay Bareback OrgyIf the orgy is at your home, decide where guests will and will not have access. Think of the entire experience. Do you live in a gated community? A high-rise with street parking? A home in the suburbs? A basement apartment with a back entrance?

The entire visit must be explained in detail to your guests. Don’t just give an address, but let them know about the parking situation, whether there’s a gate or door code, whether to knock or enter straight on, etc.

Explaining the access interior might be important as well.

Dump-and-go parties — where there’s a bottom set up and accepting loads from multiple tops who stop by over a period of time — usually has a space where the tops can clean-up, disrobe and also put back on clothes in preparation to leave. When hosting in a hotel or motel, this isn’t always possible.

Other orgies usually have a playroom or rooms where the sex occurs and a break space for refreshments. Sometimes there’s a space for people to remove, put on and store clothing.

RULE #2 of GOOD ORGY HOSTING
Have a place for guests to disrobe, store clothing safely and dress later.

Although I enjoy going over and doing the “wham, bam, thank you Sam” thing, I don’t really consider that an orgy. You will need the following three spaces minimal:

Green square bullet Dressing room
Green square bullet Play space(s)
Green square bullet Clean-up space (most likely a bathroom)

Your optional spaces may include the following:

Yellow Square Bullet Lounge break space (where sex will not occur but guests may be naked)
Yellow Square Bullet Non-sex lounging space (where guests should be clothed and no sex should occur)
Yellow Square Bullet Refreshment space (may also be the lounge space, but a place where guests can get a drink of water or other beverage or snack)
Yellow Square Bullet Specialty sex spaces (you may want to designate a space for bondage, barebacking, JO, sling(s), massage, etc.)

Finally, you should consider designating off limits spaces.

bullet_square_red Post signs for spaces like extra rooms, your office, etc., that guests should not enter.
bullet_square_red Also consider posting signs on the refrigerator, pantry, cabinets, etc., politely directing guests to the location of refreshments. Use positive phrases like, “Beer, sodas and bottled water located in the cooler on the deck” rather than “Don’t take my shit from the refrigerator” because people will be more likely to take stuff with negative commands.

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Security Concerns

When planning any get together, security is a must. I personally have been to orgies where my belongings were stolen Opens new window of a page on this blog from inside the orgy home and the word “FAG” was keyed into my car. As both the host and the participant, ways to assure a secure environment

As a host, two ways secure your environment:

The Locked-Door Policy

At a designated time (as you clearly state in the invitation), the entrance/exit will be locked. No new admissions will occur after this point. While you plainly state this, I recommend that you be a little late on locking the door. This allows for traffic issues (which you should monitor in case there’s an accident nearby — it’s happened to me) and for those who just can’t arrive on time. It also allows for the participants to loosened up a little.

Monitored

This one is a little more difficult because it requires someone or a couple of folks to skip the fun and monitor the door (and perhaps the clothing room). A couple of ways to accomplishing this:

bullet_square_blue Hire men to be your “security.” You can hire “heteroflexible” men, like local “straight” strippers. Let your participants know these men (who will wear little) are available after the festivities and will be accepting tips. You can also hire older men, straight men, liberal women, friends or pretty much anyone who doesn’t give a fuck what’s going on. Let the participants know that these folks are protecting their belongings. Once the party is in “full swing,” the doorman can step outside and check cars, call police if there’s suspicious activity, alert participants if the cops are coming, etc. If you can, consider creating a “coat check” like situation. Consider purchasing several stackable plastic bins and let participants put their clothes and keys inside it. Post-It notes allows the coat-check person to note a name and description (Tom, pierced nipples, smooth, bald head).

bullet_square_blue Create shifts with volunteers. Some folks will do it for free but consider asking for tips. It’s in everyone’s best interest. The best bet are folks who want a single shot (or need to cum just once). There’s also the option to send bottoms to service the top monitors while they work.

I’d always suggest you encourage participants to leave valuables at home, lock their IDs and wallets in their cars (hidden and out of site).

If you’re attending an orgy, I recommend the same — leave as many valuables as you can at home and the rest in your vehicle. After my stolen clothes experience, I’d suggest the following (unless you know the host or you’re attending an orgy with someone there to protect your clothes and goods):

bullet_square_blue Keep your clothes and keys with you, leaving your wallet and phone in the car (if you don’t feel safe without a phone, don’t fucking go; or, as an option, park close and have a Bluetooth connection to your phone at all times). I’ve been to an orgy or two where there was a designated room for play and it was easy enough to strip, fuck, play and then clothe oneself to hang out and eat, drink or socialize in other parts of the house.

bullet_square_blue If there’s a “no clothes” rule, consider separating your clothes and your car keys. Car keys can easily be stashed away someplace small and not very obvious. This gives a thief something to take and gives you a chance to still get your car. I’d drive home naked (or borrowing some shorts from the stupid host) with my keys than trying to get my keys from someone else.

bullet_square_blue Another option is simply keep your keys on you by securing them in a sock or something else on your body. I recommend this option, especially in sketchy situations if you have to bail without your clothes (I’ve heard of this but never personally experienced it). This might lead you to wearing disposable clothes (ones that you wouldn’t mind losing) and having an extra set in your vehicle.

I also recommend you be well aware of your surroundings and have an escape route. If something goes wrong, you can get the fuck out and leave. Also, just in case, I always leave “evidence” or information of the address where I went so anyone can find it quickly.

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Purchasing and Planning Supplies

About to fuck in a gay orgyWe don’t want to believe that we need to purchase things like poppers Opens new window of a page on this blog and lube, but alas, not everyone brings their shit even when we insist on it. Therefore, plan on buying some and having someone take yours.

I personally always purchase smaller bottles of lube anyway because I’m always needing to pocket them for random hookups or visits to bookstores Opens new window of a page on this blog or sex clubs Opens new window of a page on this blog. As an option (if you purchase in bulk or gallon size), put the lube in plastic travel bottles. Poppers can’t be put in plastic and, generally, are too valuable just to leave all over the house. I would tuck my favorites certain places for me to remember if I needed them handy.

Consider purchasing inexpensive hand towels spaced throughout the house, especially on any flat surface and in any room you think sex will happen. Put away the nice towels and put out the cheap ones.

Now some people might think of “party favors” or “party supplies” might be drugs like Tina (crystal meth), Molly (MDNA), ecstasy or marijuana (pot or 420). You may wish to allow them, but it certainly makes your gathering a target for law enforcement. I personally would avoid such and say it’s not allowed (if you choose to indulge, do it on your own privately). Unless you’re already in some liberal bastion like San Francisco, a gay bareback orgy is going to be especially frowned upon, so law enforcement getting wind of illegal drugs and sodomy going on just might cause a major sting operation. Avoid.

And if you’re thinking of going and know that this is happening, avoid.

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The Guest List

Guests to your gathering will be inevitably difficult to build. I always recommend you begin with your own hookups. You know these men so you’ll know a little bit about them — top, bottom or versatile. Generally, that is where every orgy begins with a mixture of how many men you’d like to invite and the ratio of tops-to-bottoms.

In barebacking, bottoms can be really greedy. Therefore, making it very clear the collection of people attending will make it much easier.

The question will also come for photographs along with statistics of the other attendees.

This makes for a very weird situation because some 22-year-old might refuse to come if there’s one ugly 40-year-old in the bunch. This is why I encourage the theme choice from the outset.

If it’s a “white athletes in their twenties with six pack abs only” party, then fucking specify it. However, the host must match the theme as well.

RULE #3 of GOOD ORGY HOSTING
The host must “match” the theme.

I once saw a guy hosting a barebacking party and knew who it was. He happened to be in his fifties, older, hairier and frankly out-of-shape fat. He used deceptive advertising on Craigslist to get younger men to respond, thinking they were coming to a nice jocks-only orgy.

Once I got the address of the get together, I flooded Craigslist with information on the man hosting the party. I also sent a few older, hairier men over to the address when they asked about it. I know. It’s evil of me. And it wasn’t friendly to the other guys. But the asshole got the point.

One must be reasonable about what one is going to get. One must be honest about what will be attending.

What I generally do with the first installment of an invitation folks know the general range of who will be attending based on the theme. Then, if the person is interested in attending, he must return at least one photo for inclusion in a collage of photos I put together.

I give everyone a deadline and let everyone know when the e-mail with everyone’s stats and the collage of photos will go out.

Some people send me a dozen pics. Some send one. Some send face. Some send ass. Some send body. Some send cock. I put together one or two collages of photos and a list of the participants’ basic stats.

From that point, I ask for confirmation of attendance.

At your first orgy, expect about 20 to 40 percent of your participants to actually arrive. If you maintain a mailing list and your orgies continue to be successful, the percentages will go up. Generally, you will never get more than 60 percent.

iphone-in-a-pocketE-mail multiple times leading up to the actual orgy start. Provide phone numbers for people who need them (if you don’t want to give out your real number, consider getting a Google Voice number Open-New-Window-External and link it or forward it to your phone. Yes, you can even get texts, but not all MMS.

One may use the BarebackRT.com Open-New-Window-External local party feature, but not everyone is on BBRT. There’s also sites like Evite.com, which allows for maybe, yes, no and hasn’t responded to invitations. Either way, you will want to build your own database or mailing list to maintain and you might even want to make mental notes of who attends and who doesn’t. I personally recommend getting really e-mail addresses and issuing invitations through those, as they’re easier to track should something happen at a get together.

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Scheduling the Orgy

Tea time orgies (anything in the afternoons) generally only work on weekends and holidays unless you’re planning on hosting an orgy at a public sex club or adult bookstore Opens new window of a page on this blog. Lunchtime drop-off orgies can work under certain circumstances.

Depending on the theme, the later the better. If you’re having a strip poker party Opens new window of a page on this blog or some normal party, then starting at 7 p.m. or so is just fine. Plan on later — more like 10 p.m. to midnight or even 1 a.m. if you want the after bar crowd.

One might even survey people to see what they might prefer. SurveyMonkey.com allows limited number of responses if you want to have a small selection of people to answer.

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Orgy Etiquette

I love to include a special section on etiquette Opens new window of a page on this blog in my e-mailed invitations. It’s an important reminder to everyone attending and it’s helped me make my orgies a little better. While I’ve created a more detailed version of the orgy etiquette Opens new window of a page on this blog here, your summary can be simple:

bullet You will not be attracted to everyone who attends, but there will be people there you’ll find hot.
bullet An orgy is like a potluck dinner — try a little of everything; don’t limit yourself like some sort of a la carte menu.
bullet Don’t plan on choosing the one guy you find hot and go off into a corner to make out; it’s an orgy which means everyone plays with everyone.
bullet Everyone’s allowed to touch everyone else; politely let someone else know if you’d prefer something else.
bullet (If appropriate) Let the attendees know if there’s a designated top or bottom for use if all else fails.
bullet No jerking off or just voyeur play; you’re a participant.

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Asking a Guest to Leave

I have rarely hosted an orgy without having someone who needs to be politely asked to leave or who automatically knows they are the odd man out, so to speak. Further, with bareback orgies, someone always tries to sneak in just to watch the fun and never participate. For some people, this isn’t a problem. I personally think it’s not a show but a participant sport.

One should be there to play.

Therefore, if something isn’t right, as host you can ask someone to leave.

Here’s the easiest way:

[alert style=”orange”] I wanted to thank you so much for coming to the get together.
However, I think it’s going to be in your best interest if you go ahead and leave.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out but I’ll keep you in mind for a more appropriate get together in the future. [/alert]

Now sometimes a dimwitted guest will want to know why they’re being asked to leave. Here’s a few examples:

[alert style=”orange”]I’m so sorry to say this, but the photos you provided don’t appear to be an accurate portrayal.
Perhaps it would benefit you to update them in the near future.(If you ask multiple guests to leave; this is a lie to spare the feelings of those you’re asking to leave)
I am afraid something has come up and we’re going to need to cancel the sexual portion of the party.
I hope you don’t mind. I’ll let you know if and when we reschedule.Unfortunately, you’re just not compatible with the designated theme of the party.I apologize, but we do expect you to participate in the sexual activity, not just watch.[/alert]

Occasionally, one does have to be a little mean to kick someone out. Or just start the orgy and let someone sit alone for a while and realize they’re all alone.

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Asking for Money

fucking bareback orgyI am not a big proponent of asking for designated amounts. I went to one orgy once that required $20 to get in. Funny thing, when I left after finding it a bust, the “donation” basket sat full by the front door. While I could have absconded with hundreds of dollars, I just took my twenty back since I didn’t shoot a load. I felt I didn’t get my money’s worth.

I don’t think it’s a big deal to suggest people tip for security or other things, but an actual admission or cover starts making it more like a sex club. Why do that?

Whatever you do, make it a donation or a suggested donation or optional tip.

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The Orgy Begins

I believe in alcohol.

Beer, wine, shots or something is needed before the “official” kick off of the orgy should begin.

Consider the booze a little lubricant for the party. It’s needed for people to get to know each other. I sometimes like for there to be an hour or so before the official orgy begins and the loosening up period begin.

This allows for people who feel out of place to leave (without you asking them). It also allows a little time for the inhibitions to go down.

Now it does depend on the type of party. For a blackout or darkroom or fog party where the room is dark, you don’t need this. But sometimes it is needed so people can become more comfortable.

Also, as the party begins, consider turning the air conditioning or heater temperature down, cracking a window or something to cool the space off. The space will heat up quickly. However, if the space is cooled off too well, no one will get naked.

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Boosting Sexual Success

People hired to applaud at appropriate times during a performance are known as claqueurs Open-New-Window-External and, in a way, the host and a few others need to be such at an orgy.

Your orgy claqueurs will act as instigators of action. They’ll start blowjobs or fucking or get naked or jerking off or whatever it takes to break the ice and get the action going.

With every orgy, the sexual energy ebbs and flows with the attendees and the vibe. You want to choose sexual people who can seemingly create sexual tension out of nothing.

Asking people to be your orgy instigators of action will help tremendously so you aren’t always the one.

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Ending the Orgy

Unless you’ve decided to make a night of it by hosting some sort of sleep over, the party must come to an end. Some people just don’t seem to take a hint.

I suggest giving a definitive end to your party in time. If you’re having a good time and it goes over, then don’t worry. But when you’re ready, just tell the lingerers, “Hey, I didn’t realize it’s after 1 a.m. I’m going to have to get up early tomorrow. Do you guys mind taking this someplace else?”

They’ll mosey out the door in due time.

The other option is to simply bring them their clothes. Hint, hint!

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Escorts & Massage Therapists Opens new window of a page on this blog Reviews of some of Atlanta’s massage therapists and escorts in and around the city
Getting Laid Opens new window of a page on this blog Best days and times along with when and where in Atlanta
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BATHHOUSE
Bathhouse Tips for the Newbie
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GETTING FUCKED
Getting Fucked by iBLASTinside
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GLORYHOLE
Gloryhole Etiquette
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MALE POPULATION
The Male Population
 Opens new window of a page on this blog Mark Bentson aka iBLASTinside breaks down the male population into groups as he sees them in his own structure

ORGY
How to Host a Gay Orgy
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POPPERS
Guide to Poppers
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STEALTHING
What Is Stealthing?
 Opens new window of a page on this blog The top slips his cock raw inside an unsuspecting bottom.
green bulletTop Ten Stealthing Tips Opens new window of a page on this blog For the top or bottom, how to give or get a load if the other party is reluctant to go raw.

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Condom Versus Bareback Sex

Condom Versus Bareback Sex

I’ve received a couple of e-mails just today from men confronting a crossroads on which path to take. I’m going to share what each had to write.

Being gay is one thing. You are already different and somewhat an outcast for that.

Then if you are into older guys and not guys your own age it’s another thing and another form of alienation.

Oh and then there is leather if you are into kinks and being subservient and being someone’s slave or boy and wearing a collar people thing you are strange.

And add barebacking to the mix and you are basically a fucking alien.

I’d say the only thing you could do more then that is becoming poz then good luck ever finding acceptance.

This young man in his twenties experienced first hand the hatred coming from the gay community for being a barebacker. Unfortunately, someone discovered his enjoyment at raw cock and, poof, all his acceptance in his circle of friends dissipated so quickly, he felt abandoned and forced into burying his urge to go raw. Now, with animosity and a regret, he wrote me thinking I would reject him too because he no longer barebacked.

Peer pressure. What an odd thing.

The other man, in his mid-thirties, wrote to express his newness to fucking raw.

It took me a long time to get to the point of taking raw cock on purpose.  Haven’t moved to all-bare all the time yet.

I still remember the first loads I took.  Was really nervous about it.  But now, I crave my buddies’ loads.  Sometimes I really want to be a cum dump and take all loads.  Haven’t got to that point though.

My Own Journey

In the late 1980s and early 1990s as the AIDS epidemic brought more and more death upon the gay community, I happened to be a fledgling twentysomething myself in South Florida. I lived far away from the big cities and worked way too hard to get to date men, as at the time I thought a Prince Charming still existed on my horizon would come and take me to new heights of love and sex.

You can read of my own sexual exposures by my molester in the Dark Passenger Opens a new window from this blog entries, which at the time, I’d confronted but didn’t face head on as this blog allowed in the years since. Yet as a young journalist at a small newspaper in the heat of the Florida sun, I got to see the worst that can happen to humanity:

  • A 13-year-old middle school student stabbed, snipped and raped (after death)
  • A 19-year-old motorcyclist with his brain scattered a few hundred feet — now I know why they call it “gray matter”
  • Countless shootings and stabbings of people, often for no reason or for some drug deal gone bad
  • Lightning strikes of golfers, kids playing outside or just random people
  • Skinheads and KKK recruiting in the local high schools
  • Vagrants and drunks falling asleep on train tracks to have the locomotive run them over and sever off some body part
  • Whole families driving off roads into ditches and drowning, never exiting the minivan
  • Beach drownings and backyard pool drownings of old and young, accidental or otherwise
  • Wrecks where the jaws of life pried open bloody mangled messes of metal and human fused together
  • Coaches molesting his female players on his championship team
  • And an honors student and latchkey kid, sniffing a spray can protectant, getting high, barfing and dying his backyard

These were not odd occurrences. This happened daily. Sometimes twice or three times. Over the weekend. For more than two years, I watched this carnage and human destruction up close and personal. No college professor prepared me for real blood and body parts and coroners and victim tears and invading people’s privacy to get a few precious words for a quote.

In the midst of all this, I began my own medical issues. My doctor, at the time, asked me if I’d ever been tested for the virus that causes AIDS. I’d developed some odd rash and he had no idea why.

No cocktails existed. As I recall, AZT was even experimental. People I knew who had AIDS would suddenly disappear only to have their obituary appear later due to suicide or some other “illness.” And if my life, just starting out, began with a doctor suggesting that a fucking rash might be HIV.

The test in those days took more than a week to get the results. I worried the whole time. And the whole time I worried, I watched countless people drop dead around me from murder, accident, mayhem and more.

But I didn’t have HIV. I was fine. I would live!

Life seemed brighter. The world seemed better. I didn’t need to worry. Everything would be a-okay. I just needed to be careful. Right? No unsafe sex.

Fuck. I barely had sex anyway. The death and destruction at work kept making sure of that.

I would try to use a condom if sex ever popped up or just let a guy suck me off. And I tried to date. But something just seemed unsettling to me.

Fast-forward

I’d sampled raw sex from the beginning — my first fuck ever Opens a new window from this blog — and a few momentous subsequent fucks Opens a new window from this blog. As I turned over my new leaf following the savior of coming out negative, I found myself slipping up from time to time. Often, it would be someone I really liked (or lusted after).

scruff-go-rawBarebacking happens. Any gay man who hooks up will likely bareback. A recent example to the right. I’ll tell someone I only fuck raw and they’ll change their tune quick.

Recent studies found that about half of all gay men will admit to having bareback sex. But that’s the admission. I believe that number is much higher. The study I’m citing was from a judgmental safer sex education effort and didn’t go at the study neutrally. Someone asked like I did — as you see in this pic or in a way that makes people feel “safe” to answer they’re okay with barebacking — you’ll find more people will admit to going raw.

While the fuck listed here didn’t hesitate, sometimes the bottom will wait a while and come back later with an “all right, I’ll let you fuck me” or “if you promise you’re DDF, you can fuck me.” Sometimes, if I follow through with the fuck, I’ll be asked to pull out.

I pull out…. after I blast inside.

Everyone knows my name, my e-mail address and usually this blog. Why they sometimes miss that fact, I don’t quite get it.

In my experience, those who eventually admit and will allow me to bareback — based on my photos — and knowing my information is about seven out of 10. I believe if I had a photo of an athletic body, younger age and a slightly larger cock, I’d get closer to nine out of 10.

And if I were to bottom, it would be close to 99 percent with those looks.

pornI wrote recently Opens a new window from this blog about a porn star who visited Atlanta during 2012. This performer, who is rather famous and qualifies as a true porn star, would have cost me a big chunk of change. He stars in condom-only porn. He refused to get fucked raw but would gladly fuck raw and, even knowing me and my blog, would breed my ass.

The schedules never meshed and I’m not messing up his career or the opportunity for him to breed me should he return to the ATL.

I believe that some people think it’s more acceptable to be a bareback top.

The more young, the more athletic, the more “healthy” looking, the more likely a raw fuck will happen.

Back to My Story

As I matured and had my experiences with dating and hookups, I had sex both with and without condoms. It’s not like I didn’t know the difference. It’s not like I ignored the choice before me. And every six months or so, I’d endure the long wait to determine if I happened to be HIV positive, worrying about what would happen, what other discrimination might confront me along with the homophobic hatred that already confronted my life.

Medical changes were happening and treatments were improving. People living with HIV didn’t die immediately. I had boyfriends, then partners. And my life progressed. When I would try to use a condom, it wouldn’t always be the most successful experience.

The difference between bareback and condom sex is like standard- and high-definition television. Once you’ve watched high-def, you really can’t stand to go back to the low-definition again. It’s fuzzy. You don’t get as much out of the experience. The sensations aren’t all there. You’re missing a big chunk of the fun. The experience is extremely lacking.

You crave the high-definition. You want to full-on overload that you get from the sensory inputs of going raw.

Anyone who pretends it’s “just as hot” or whatever else is lying.

My two writers know this. And this is the conflict they’re struggling with right now.

To the Twentysomething

You are a barebacker and you know the risks that come with it. You might pretend for the sake of your so-called friends that you want to wrap it up. However, what kind of friends are they really?

Maintaining a little separation of your sex life and your professional life makes a great deal of sense. But your gay friends cannot all say they hate you because you bareback. If they do, they’re not truly your friends (and it’s time to find some new ones). Barebacking is a choice.

I will say if you choose to use a condom, it’s fine with me. If I know someone makes a logical choice based on the facts in front of them, then I can only respect their choices.

Further, allow me to say Atlanta isn’t the best choice for the Leather Community. It is a small community and the choices are limiting, unlike larger cities where Leather has a larger presence — Chicago for one. I’d suggest you broaden your circle of friends and you’ll find several barebacking members in within BDSM circles.

And should you ever become poz, I promise you won’t be alienated either. There’s a special bond between poz men (I’m sure some of them will speak out).

To the Thirtysomething

You too are coming into your own, now that you’ve seen the greener grasses of barebacking. Even with your limited experience, you know that the sensory experience of going raw just can’t compare with wrapping plastic around a cock and sliding it into a hole. That separation blurs the enjoyment.

Can you truly make that choice?

Why I Made the Choice

As I wrote earlier, I was unprepared for the death, destruction and hatred I would see on a day-to-day experience. Compound that with my molestation, and you come to a place where I struggled to find intimacy and connections with men that simply didn’t not transfer through the plastic barriers of a condom.

Why would I choose to live a life hidden from those sensations I craved and deny myself the thing I wanted? Why especially when I knew it all could be snatched away in a moment due to lightning, an accident, a gunshot, a stabbing or some other act of fate that would take thousands every year but somehow spare me?

One of the oddest occurrences that still baffles me is the person who writes me and wants me to fuck him — but insists I use a condom. Oh, he’s  read my blog. He knows I only fuck raw. He’s aware that “I blast inside.” But he considers himself cute enough, muscular enough, hung enough, young enough, funny enough or some other talent enough that he will be the exception to my rule to fuck raw. He is special enough that he will escape my raw breeding. I won’t stealth him either. I’ll be honorable and fuck safely.

No chance in hell.

And if you think a car accident, a home invasion, a stray bullet, a blood clot, a drowning or some other death or destruction element will miss you — that you’re special enough that God will spare you — then I spent two years in South Florida meeting the people who thought the same thing.

Life is meant to be lives in high definition. That’s where I live it.

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