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Prepared Statement in Response to the So-Called “Lindsey Lohan Sex List”

The following is a prepared statement on March 15, 2014, from Mark Bentson, aka iBLASTinside, regarding recent statements that a certain Hollywood actress may or may not have made to a certain weekly magazine.

First, I want to thank all my friends for standing by me during this overwhelming time. 

Second, I wanted to take this opportunity to make some clarifications.

It has come to my attention that an acquaintance of mine may have spoken to a magazine regarding multiple sexual incidents that occurred in my past.

Each of these occurrences did happen while I was not in a monogamous relationship and while the other party or parties was completely sober and chose to participate willingly.

Unlike the actress, who has chosen to sell her story at this time, I cannot in good conscious name any person or persons in regard these incidents.

To better assist those covering these events, I have chosen to offer these further clarifications.

At this time, I cannot confirm or deny that I had sexual relations or witnesses sexual relations with between any of the following and the actress in question:

      • Adam Levine
      • Justin Timberlake
      • Zac Efron
      • Evan Peters
      • Garrett Hedlund
      • Tom Bergeron

Further, I refuse to confirm to deny that the actress in question used a custom, nine-inch, strap-on- double-headed dildo to fuck the ass of any of the following:

        • Zac Efron
        • Tom Bergeron
        • Drew Carey
        • Justin Timberlake
        • Wilmer Walderrama
        • Jamie Dornan

I want to make it perfectly clear that all parties involved that in any sexual encounters between the actress in question and anyone who may or may not be on this list always acted responsibly and employed the use of a condom or Plan B the following day, although I cannot confirm or deny that what I just stated occurred or that I accompanied the actress to multiple Walgreens, CVS stores and/or Rite Aid stores over the period of several years to purchase between 40 and 50 pills.

      • Wilmer Walderrama
      • Jamie Dornan
      • Morgan Freeman
      • Taye Diggs
      • Fifty Cent
      • Zac Efron
      • Justin Timberlake
      • Former President George W. Bush
      • James Franco

Finally, I can neither confirm or deny that I, myself, with my own very penis, inserted it into the following people, or had them insert their penis into me, at any time:

      • Channing Tatum
      • Val Kilmer 
      • Jamie Dornan
      • Zac Efron
      • Alan Thicke
      • Jonah Hill

Thank you for this opportunity to clarify or not to clarify the events of the last few days.

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A Message to the Safer Sex Community: Face the Fucking Reality of Bareback Sex

I’m on Scruff and 25-year-old cutie hits me up, basically begging me to fuck him.

It’s rare for that to happen. I’m two decades his senior. Of course, some young ones do chase older men. Usually this much enthusiasm can be attributed to men who recognize me as the writer of this blog. But several minutes into the conversation and nothing about my blog has come up.

After he’s hinting how much he wants his legs lifted into the air and he’s forwarded two photos of men fucking him — both using condoms. I finally cross into the territory of truth.

no bb ever. well, maybe

Even with the little “iBLASTinside” hint, the boy doesn’t connect the dots and, well, it’s a while before I point him to my blog.

He’s one of hundreds. The “safer” hoards who suddenly give up their convictions once they’re away from peer pressure.

Half of Gay Men Admit to Barebacking; The Other Half Lie

Recently, the gay press reported something like half of all gay men reported they barebacked.

The half that said they didn’t? Most of them lied.

I’ll even bet you that if the scientists conducted the study lined up the men with who fucked whom, they’d discover portions of men who had a sexual encounter and a portion would say they barebacked while the other half would say they were “safe.”

This wall of deniability exists. I’ve even seen it (and written about it). It’s not something so bold as stealthing Opens new window of a page on this blog.

I’ve had bottoms ask if I have condoms. I say yes. He comes over and ignores the condom. He just rides my cock. I don’t ask if I can cum inside. I just do.

Just Like the Right Wing & Abstinence

The AIDS and HIV education community have become just like religious conservatives are with sex education and their insistence that only one path exists: Abstinence. The right wing fails to face facts that teenagers will have sex and won’t promote birth control including the pill or condom use. Moreover, if a pregnancy happens to occur, one must carry that baby to term.

But the more progressive want to teach the straight youth of America how to minimize the risk of disease transmission and possible pregnancy.

Condom Nazis haven’t gone progressive at all. They see just one option. Use a condom. They can’t even fathom people refusing to wear the horrible plastic thing that deflates a hardon.

Look, let me make this perfectly clear.

No matter how many public service messages put out that say, “Safe sex is hot sex,” may work on the brain, but it’s not working on the cock.

People just don’t want to face the fact that barebacking is better than sex with a condom. As I compared it once, it’s like standard-definition versus high-definition television Opens new window of a page on this blog.

Reality Check

Men will fuck without condoms. Face it. Stop being judgmental. You can block the #BBBH hashtag Open-New-Window-External on Twitter or defriend them on Facebook, thinking that it’s alienating them. But it’s not. Barebacking is a movement that’s growing.

Again, half of all gay men admit to doing it and that means there’s more who do it. Bareback porn is growing faster than anything else out there.

We have to face these facts. Now let’s find a way to stem the tide of disease transmission while still letting men bareback if they so choose.

This is like handing out clean needles to drug users. It’s controversial. I get that.

But I am not stopping my barebacking. And I am watching hundreds of thousands of men who won’t either.

I’ve got some suggestions for over-the-counter products that should be developed and provided as an option to those who choose to bareback.

lightbulb_on Virus-Killing Lube

Like a spermicidal lubricant, this would be a lube meant to be deadly to HIV and Herpes. If used as lube, it’s a means to help kill any free-floating viruses that come into contact with it. Of course, it’s got to be mild enough for the intestinal lining to handle it but strong enough to kill those little microscopic bugs.

lightbulb_on Accordion Squeeze Bottle Virucidal Douche

Before and after the fuck, the bottom should douche with this mild concoction. Especially in combination with the lube, the more killing of any HIV or Herpes hanging around in the cum. I have a bottom friend who normally carries around an accordion squeeze bottle (like seen here to the right) that he uses after he’s bred to flush out the cum.

I know. There’s something romantic about the DNA staying inside the bottom. And I’ll admit that I like marking my territory.

But I’m coming up with a solution here and this is reasonable.

lightbulb_on Clear or Latex Paint Assliner

Transmission of HIV normally occurs through fissures in the lining of the intestinal walls.

This idea may reduce the sensation of the bottom so it could be bad idea, but like the latex paint people spread on the body or the invisible bandages, the bottom would put this into their ass to create a protective layer to help prevent any issues with the anal cavity.

lightbulb_on Plan B for HIV Available OTC

Plan B refers to the “day after” pill for women who might have gotten pregnant the night before. Because of the controversy around abortion, many jurisdictions and politicians believe life begins at conception. Plan B provides for pregnancy prevention by inhibition of ovulation Open-New-Window-External. In order to get Plan B, a doctor must prescribe it and, in certain jurisdictions, certain women require parental permission.

Likewise, it’s been found that taking antivirals following possible exposure to HIV will inhibit the transmission. Of course, one can go to one’s doctor and request a certain supply, which goes onto one’s insurance, which shows that the patient is participating in what insurance companies consider “high-risk behavior” and will potentially flag that patient from receiving insurance renewals and life insurance, among other benefits.

Creating an over-the-counter option, easily obtained from the pharmacist at a reasonable cost helps long-term and concerns.

A Final Note for Bug-Chasers and Gift-Givers

I am not denying the POZ community at all and those find eroticism in HIV, just as those who find pregnant women sexy. Please.

I’m not advocating or condemning bug-chasing Open-New-Window-External and/or gift-giving Open-New-Window-External.

But what has been obvious to me for far too long just keeps slipping through the mental grasp of those on the other side of this issue. I fear a backlash is coming of gay right-wing hatred, like a Tea Party within our own progressive ranks that would make for radicalization and fractures well beyond what we want to see.

This “no compromise” attitude that’s gridlocked the U.S. government concerns me. I’ve seen it in my own life as I approached GLBT legal groups with my firing for being gay only to be told that they were much too busy focusing on the marriage rights fight to worry about a man fired to being gay. It’s as if the gay rights movement worries more about eating wedding cake than putting food on the table.

I don’t want this to happen to sexual politics.

For those who wish to bareback but don’t wish to chase, here’s some options to protect themselves. It’s as simple as that.

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What is stealthing?

What is Stealthing? Well this is one kind of Stealth

What is a stealth fuck? How do I stealth?

Stealthing is the practice by which one party in a sexual encounter believes the other is being “safer” and using a condom correctly but, in fact, the condom has somehow been compromised or removed during the fuck and the cum is injected into the bottom’s ass. Either the top or bottom may be the deceptive party in a stealthing.

Many methods to sabotage the condom or trick the other party for removal are available in My Top 10 Stealthing Techniques are available here. Opens a new window from this blog

I’ve also written a lot about men I’ve stealthed and the deceptive things I’ve done to get ass. You can see all my entries on stealthing hereOpens a new window from this blog

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Gloryhole Etiquette

Gloryhole Etiquette

What is a Gloryhole?

A gloryhole Open-New-Window-External is a opening or hole in a wall, partition or divider about waist high so that a man can pass his cock through from one side to the other so that another man on the other side may service his cock orally (blowjob), anally (fuck) or manually (handjob). Gloryholes are most often associated with blowjobs or oral servicing.

The gloryhole allows for an anonymous sexual experience where the blowjob giver (or bottom) cannot see anything but the cock of the blowjob receiver (or top) and the blowjob receiver just feels the oral attentions of whoever happens to be on the other side of the partition.

Gloryhole in a public restroomGloryholes are most often found at adult bookstores and sex clubs, but can occasionally be carved out at certain public restrooms (also known as tearooms), rest stops (or cottages in the UK and Europe) or even in some people’s homes.

Public and semi-public locations are considered AYOR or at your own risk Open-New-Window-External, where one might be caught by those not into such activity or, worse, law enforcement. Once must be incredibly careful and focused on one’s surroundings in an AYOR location.

Is there really an Etiquette to Gloryholes?

My short answer is yes.

In general, one needs to understand the subtle movements of each party to begin to comprehend the unspoken language of the sexual encounter that may (or may not) occur. Expectations should also be fulfilled and getting them satisfied might be also an effort.

If you’re sticking your cock through a hole and the cocksucker on the other side suddenly stops, you might wonder why or, on the other hand, a cocksucker could be fellating away when the cock suddenly withdraws.

If it happens once, you can attribute that to the fickleness of the person on the other side. But if a pattern develops, you might want to consider something’s up. The problem might be you.

This guide provides a standard approach to giving and receiving, sucking and fucking as well as all the signals and indications.

The Different Gloryholes

Yes, there are different kinds of gloryholes to choose from. In these cases, one must be aware of your choices and act appropriately.

Bookstore or Sex Club Carved Gloryhole

These are your top-of-the-line choices, sometimes even including handholds for the guy who’s putting his cock through and a stool or seat for the man who’s sucking or servicing cock. I’ve even heard of places where the gloryhole is more of an ass-shaped opening with a slight, cushioned ledge for the bottom to rest his ass comfortably (I’ve never seen such).

Ideal shape of a gloryholeThe best provide for different height options, so the openings are more elongated, as illustrated. This allows for a man who’s 6-foot-3 or 5-foot-4 to stick his cock through without straining his back.

Generally, these gloryholes have been professionally cut and the edges smoothed so that no splinters or other issues are in the way. Often, duct-tape may be taken to line the edges to assure nonesuch issues will get in the way of thrusts around the sensitive groin areas.

The thickness of the partition should be about a quarter inch.

platform-gloryholesSome sex clubs will create a location where the top men step up onto a platform and the bottom or servicer can stand upright as well (see illustration). This is a convenience but it does not provide for anal options in sex through a gloryhole.

AYOR Gloryholes

Found in bathrooms usually in older malls and store rest rooms, rest stops, truck stops, colleges and universities and other places, these gloryholes are patiently and lovingly created by the perverts who frequent the cruisy location and are tired of bending over and serving under the bathroom stall partition. Because these partitions are normally metal, these gloryholes can include sharp edges, so being extremely careful with your cock is paramount.

Cuts can occur when a new visitor to the bathroom opens the door and you have to jerk your cock back and resume the sitting position as if you’re taking a shit. That’s why duct, fabric or masking tape is a friend and should be used along the edges. If not available at the time, keep a hand (or two) cupped around the hole for an easy withdrawal.

Private, In-Home Gloryholes

These are appearing more and more frequently as AYOR holes disappear and people are reluctant to pay entry fees or drive long distances to adult bookstores or sex clubs. You can see invitations to gloryholes online at Craigslist.org. Just look at the Personals sections of Casual Encounters or Men Seeking Men.

I prefer to clarify a few things about the gloryhole setup, as to what it’s like.

Generally, the best situation has a private entrance.

Sheet, tarp or shower curtain with cut hole: This is the cheap or quickest gloryhole option. Sometimes this can be fun but generally I prefer a more solid partition.

A Bed GloryholeBed gloryhole: I’ve actually experienced this a couple of times (see the photo). It can be fun.

Doorway gloryhole: The best potential setup, of course. But it’s best not to use a real door because it can be too thick.

Suggestions for Oral Servicing

1. Pace yourself

If you’re oral only, don’t exhaust yourself in the first two minutes. I expect it will take me at least five solid minutes of oral before popping off.

2. Minimal hands

If you must use your hands, do not use them in exclusion of your mouth. Combine the two. If I wanted a handjob, I would have done it myself.

3. No teeth

I think it should go without saying but, fuck, I still get a good scraping. Last month, someone actually scratched me near the head on the left side of my cock.

4. Take a hint

If we’re pulling away, you need to start doing your best or we’re leaving. Even if you do your best, it may not be good enough for what each cock needs (more on that in a minute). So don’t go grabbing after it. Just cause you didn’t get a load doesn’t mean we didn’t enjoy ourselves.

5. Sometimes we will be back

Occasionally we will sample the room of cocksuckers and then return to the best. It’s rare for me to know I’ve found the best, especially if I’m hoping for a little ass. And I can count on one hand the number of times I know a blowjob is going to do the job of an assfucking.

6. I don’t want to hear you spit

Even if you are going to spit, I want to believe you swallowed. So please, the whole places doesn’t need to hear you attempt to scrape your lungs and throat with mucus to remove every little element of my sperm. My swimmers deserve a death in your stomach or ass, so please, make their euthanasia silent for me.

Now for some of the motions I make (or I think a lot of tops make) to help you understand what we mean…

Three-way gloryholes can be fun too

      

 

Gestures and Their Meaning

1. Hand at the gloryhole.

Gesture by the oral servicer or the bottom.
Please put your cock through this gloryhole so I might give your cock pleasure.

2. Cock through the gloryhole.

Gesture by the top or the servicee.
Please suck my cock.

3. Elbow or palm of hand blocking a gloryhole.

Gesture by either party.
I am not interested in servicing you or being serviced by you. This is unlikely to change throughout the time you’re visiting at the gloryhole location.

4. Face at a gloryhole (usually with mouth open and tongue out).

Gesture by the oral servicer.
Please fuck my face.

cock through a gloryhole

5. Two men shaking their cocks at one another on either side.

Gesture usually by two men desiring to be oral servicees.
If one is versatile, the polite thing to do is to kneel and start sucking. Usually the older, less good looking or the less hung should be doing the sucking.

6. The suckee receives for a while; the servicer pauses with a push away or a couple of light taps on the cock (kind of like a tap on the shoulder).

This usually occurs when the other party wants to get sucked too or wants to discuss meeting together in the same booth. By the way, it’s okay to decline meeting in the same booth. For the gloryhole experience, part of the fun is the whole gloryhole anonymous thing, even though you can see them through the hole.

7. The suckee receives for a while, a pause comes and there’s a slap on the cock.

This usually means the asshole cocksucker is leaving. It’s also an indicator of a couple of more things that I regret to inform you.

(1.) You have disappointed the cocksucker with your size. Cocksuckers like to be challenged and, if yours just doesn’t snake far enough down their throat, then fuck off. Or,
(2.) the cocksucker thinks he’s so damn good that you should have shot your load by now and he’s done sucking you.

8. The suckee receives for a while, up to hardness and a little beyond; then the cocksucker stops and there’s a firm grip on the receiver’s cock and a pause…

We’ll address fucking through a gloryhole in a moment in another section, but that is indeed is what’s about to happen. That firm grip means two things:

(1.) Positioning your cock to line it up for the ass; or,
(2.) Positioning your cock for a rubber.

9. The sucker is giving a blowjob and the cock begins to move in a fucking motion.

sucking through a gloryholeThe top either wants to…

(1.) fuck your mouth; or,
(2.) fuck your ass.

The latter is more likely, at least when I make the motion.  If fucking your ass is an option, get to it. The most important part now to to vary what you’re doing.

If you won’t go to the ass, don’t be surprised if number 10 ends up happening. With your mouth, go down deeper on his cock, work the whole shaft and see if you can take a whole mouth fucking. That said, if he’s a top like me, he wants to unload in an ass and a mouth just isn’t enough

10. The suckee begins to pull out slowly.

The sucker is not earning his keep. The top is getting bored with the sucking and is considering moving on but has given you another opportunity to redouble effort and prove the blowjob giver is the one he should let suck you off.

11. The suckee all of a sudden pulls out or jerks away.

One of two things:

(1.) The bottom used teeth. Don’t do that.
(2.) The top is too close to coming and he’s not quite ready for it.

Either way, take it slow if you get the cock back in hand, be gentle and kind.

12. The top’s balls are shaved.

I believe if a top shaves his balls or he makes the point of getting them through the gloryhole, there’s a task for the bottom and that’s to lick, lick and lick some more. Access might be tough, but still, it’s an invitation to lick away.

Now, there are many other possibilities. I will often step away and look into the hole. If, on the other side, I see a naked guy, I might give him a little more time to get up the courage to do what I hope he will do. Otherwise, I’ll move on.

      

Fucking Through a Gloryhole

bareback fucking through a gloryholeThe ultimate experience has got to be fucking though a gloyhole and, of course, I would approve of that bareback. If you are at all concerned about fucking barebacking, be aware that this is a potential experience when you put your cock through a hole. I have found that about 20 percent of the time (or one out of five fucks) you will luck up with a gloryhole fuck. Hints that this will happen can usually be told if you see the servicer is completely naked, but that is not always the case.

If the bottom chooses to use a condom, the sensation I’m most familiar with is what I’ll call the pinch. It’s how some inexperienced people will usually put a condom on someone else, by pinching the tip to remove air but leave an empty reservoir for cum later. Generally, the applier will catch the tip of the cock as well and it can, well, pinch a little. It doesn’t hurt as much as it’s uncomfortable.

Following that process is the roll, where the condom is rolled down the shaft. Again, this sensation doesn’t feel ideal but usually the sense is the sudden dulling of sensation.

At this point, you’ll usually hear the pop, as the bottom opens a bottle of lube and begins applying it liberally on your plastic sheathed cock and on his ass.

Finally, there’s the base death grip,  which guides the cock into the hole.

Generally, whether bareback or covered, allowing the bottom to back up on your cock is a good idea. Then, once he leans back onto the gloryhole, it’s the top’s queue to fuck away. The top usually moves for this while the bottom stays stationary.

As for bareback fucking, I find the bottoms are more prepared, usually well lubed and ready to just back up. They usually go from sucking to the base death grip.

It goes without saying that, if you’re going to be fucked, please clean out well before arriving and, well, monitor your cleanliness. If I catch the scent of shit, I will leave quick without the polite “thank you” tap on the ass.

I have removed a condom while fucking and he knew it. If you’re a bottom and you want the condom on the top, pay attention.

As for how long it should last, well, there’s the polite way. If the ass is good, I will fuck it until I cum. Once I cum, I tap a nice “thank you” and zip up and leave. If I’m not ready to cum, I still tap a “thank you.” If there’s a problem with the ass, I simply leave. Nothing polite about it. I hope the rudeness sends a message to the ass he needs to check on things.

 

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An Entry on ‘Safe’ Sex

The controversial actions and beliefs in my life would eventually rise up to bite me. The broken condom suggestions (responding to an inquiry to this blog) raises certain questions of ethics and morality. I certainly don’t miss that. In fact, I’ve explored it in a stealthing post and many people weighed in with their thoughts. I censored no one. I remain impressed at the honest dialog generated.

When I originally wrote the “Deceptively Fun” series for Nifty.org, the person who ran the repository of erotic tales got plenty of shit over it. In order for my stories to stay live on the site, I had to post a disclaimer. I wrote one, skipping the suggested disclaimer that indicated what appeared was a “fantasy.” My disclaimer read:

WARNING: With any sexual encounter, you should always carefully consider your options and make conscious choices, knowing the possible results of your decisions. You should be fully aware of your surroundings and the activities of all participants, especially knowing not everyone is trustworthy, no matter how many muscles he has or how big his cock is. If you choose to use condoms and you are the bottom, consider bringing your own condoms and compatible lube. Remember, the only truly “safe sex” is sex alone or no sex at all.

Hate me all you want. Don’t read me. Block me on Twitter. Ignore me. Go about your life and avoid the truth staring you in your face.

You must be responsible for your own self.

Sorry to quote the bard: “To thine own self be true.”

This wisdom resonates through the ages and if you put blind trust in a stranger you’ve just met to have your best interest in mind when you’re both just trying to get a nut, then you deserve whatever gets injected up your ass or planted on your lips.

So haters, please just fuck off. This blog isn’t required reading.