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Q&A: The Truth About “Safe” Fuckers and Forbidden Pleasures of Bare

Q&A: The Truth About “Safe” Fuckers and Forbidden Pleasures of Bare

A note from Mark: I received this as a comment from a reader. I thought it deserved to be an entire post as I addressed it.

 

letter-qI am an exclusive bottom guy who loves bareback sex and loves cum. I tend to be upfront about it and what I want.

What I find from the tops (who want it “safe”) is essentially the same as the bottoms who want it “safe.” They never have condoms but insist on using them. Interesting when I start by proposing to use condoms, responses to my posts seeking a top is ridiculously high.

Then they never want to use condoms when we actually fuck.

On the converse, when I specifically advertise for BB only, I get far fewer responses. So what the fuck?

Do the tops who want stealth really just looking to get off on deceiving someone? I can play that game if that is what works for you guys. You seem to be turned off by the direct “I want your bare cock and cum in my ass.” But yet if I pretend I want a condom on your cock, then I can suddenly get all the bare cock I want. any thoughts?

 

letter-aThe answer is more simple than it seems.

“I’ve never done this before.”

“I’m a virgin”

“Just this one time.”

“Just put in the tip.”

Tops prefer bareback and I’d propose three out of four men fuck without condoms. Truth is, even when I get hit up, someone will say “safe only” to me only to learn I’ll only bareback. At some point, the horny bottom will decide he wants it too much and will ask me not to cum in his ass.

In the end, he’ll go home with a load in his ass.

The tops want the appearance that they’re fucking a virginal asshole without the risk of any sexually transmitted infections. You see, the condom Nazi lobby generated this impression that all that is bareback means it’s disease.

If you’re a bare-loving top who hasn’t faced the facts about the risks you’re taking, you think if you get a condom-preferred bottom who lets you in his ass raw will reduce your chance of getting something “bad.”

Of course, nothing could be further from the truth.

Barebackers tend to be in tune with their bodies. They know their statuses with any such stuff.

Other than chasers and gift-givers, true barebackers are among the safest to fuck. But many would much rather pretend.

It’s got nothing to do with stealthing. It has everything to do with deceiving oneself.

So post your ads for both raw and wrapped. Or don’t specify. And then given the choice, most will choose raw. If not, that’s when the stealthing fuck begins.

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A blind leading the blind mentality seems to permeate the world. We don’t want our children to be taught about sex or they might have it. Yet we all have cocks and vaginas and asshole and clits.

Then there’s this thing called the Internet and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out which goes where. Before you know it, little honors student and Christian Jessica Jane Lister is pregnant with football quarterback Cody Wall’s baby and they’ve both got genital warts.

We want our schools to teach creationism but not evolution but we don’t want our churches to support science. Hell, the Georgia Legislature is trying to pass a law that citizens have a right to carry guns into their churches, so we can kill the preacher if he says something blasphemous (like Jesus turned water into wine; wrong! Jesus turned water into grape juice).

It stands to reason that a lot of the hate I’ve garnered causing people to protest against Str8Cam Jeff Opens new window of a page on this blog and others steams from a misunderstanding of my most controversial posts about stealthing.

I know a lot of my readers think stealthing is hot, hot, hot. You jerk off to it. It’s the forbidden fruit. All of us have fantasies we all enjoy, just beyond the borders of what we’d really do.

Then again, it might be something we do.

In the barebacking world, there’s bug-chasing and gift-giving along with a Russian roulette of who-the-fuck-cares breeds us.

But I am known for stealthing, for giving the world the top 10 tips for stealthing Opens new window of a page on this blog, for explaining barebacking in meaningful ways that there’s no denying what’s really happening.

I have been deceptive. And that’s not explaining all my motivations.

The Entire Truth

Whenever I watch a magician — even someone like Lance Burton or David Copperfield — it’s become second nature for me to figure out how the trick is done. It’s not really hard to do. I can’t stand to watch “America’s Got Talent” and to see Howie Mandel be amazed at a relatively simple trick and to say, “I don’t know how you did that!”

I can tell you.

When I began the entries on busting condoms, taking condoms off and other forms of sabotage, the outrage was palpable. Most hated it. Many thought I’d broken some sacred contract.

How, I have no idea. Anonymous sex is just that. Why they have this higher-than-mighty sense one must adhere to a code when fucking someone who you don’t even know their first name, I don’t comprehend. Why? And especially why when one knows the other person isn’t put into any harm.

The mighty think that the stealther has some puss-filled cock shooting out disease upon infection and reigning some destruction upon the other.

Nonetheless, until I started writing about it, no one was.

I don’t count myself as some savior. I don’t. But I do see some of what I wrote as an education.

I do explain if you’re stupid enough to want to fuck in places where you’re not going to know your top or bottom, how one might protect oneself. How to bring your own condoms, monitor the use of the condoms and maintain your own safety.

You are accountable for your own safety. No one else.

Welcome to Real Life

It’s so very odd how some consider this bond of sex sacred even though you’re fucking with a stranger. For example, if a journalist is speaking to a source and the source wants to go “off the record” — meaning the content to follow is not to be published or broadcast — the journalist must agree to do so verbally as well. It must be stated so and both parties have to make an agreement.

Pulling out a condom just with the assumption someone will wear it doesn’t work that way.

I’m not saying this stuff just to piss people off. I’m trying to get reality to sink in. This is how the world works. Assuming an asshole top who wants to get off raw or a bottom who wants a load is going to fuck according to some honor code is just plain stupid.

 

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Greater Boston Jock John Peréz

Greater Boston Jock John Peréz

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Sometimes it’s the photo that gets me.

We’re all visual at our core. Oh, I am an equal opportunity fucker. I will fuck practically anyone Opens new window of a page on this blog under the right conditions. But I’ll admit being especially 

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shallow when it came to John Peréz, better known as “Greater Boston Jock.”

He started following me on Twitter from @GreaterBosJock Follow on Twitter and used the Bareback Brotherhood hashtag #BBBH. But his RentBoy.com profile Link Opens in a New Window notes under Safe Sex he’s “Always Safe.”

After that, I had to find out what was up with this muscle stud. 

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QuestionWhen did you start escorting?

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AnswerI started right out of high school. I hung out with an older crowd of people. A guy I knew who was a stripper at a night club in Providence, RI. That’s where I had my first taste of getting paid for my time. I fell in love with that world and I’m still doing it today nine years later.

QuestionWhat do you like most about escorting?

AnswerI’ll be honest. It’s the endless amount of money I can make at any given time!

Also the different type of men I meet on daily basis: Young, old, married, closeted. You name it, I had it! It does keep me on top of my game with new sexual techniques I can use on my clients over and over again.

Escorting also brought me some new endeavors that I would never have sought out on my own. I been approached by few porn scouts to do solos and videos. (I’m working with them right now as we speak!)  I get to travel more now. I been flown to Los Angeles, D.C., Miami and Dallas just to name a few.

QuestionWhat do you like least about escorting?

AnswerThere are a few things I dislike…

bullet The endless amount of spam I get sent to my phone and e-mail.
bullet Men who call and don’t really want to book you and waste your time. They just ask tons of questions. So I spend most of my days filtering out the good from the bad.

Going Raw with John

QuestionSo tell me, do you bareback?

AnswerThe big question eh? Barebacking!

I’ve been barebacking for a bit, starting a few years ago when it a fad, I guess. Would you call it that? A fad?

Anyway, clients asked me. So I did. I have no problem with it since it was I preferred. It’s like the most common request I get these days.

QuestionDo you like barebacking?

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JOHN PERÉZ

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Age: 26
Sign: Cancer
Height: 5 feet 8 inches (173 cm)
Weight: 189 pounds (86 kilos)
Eyes: Brown
Hair: Black
Body hair: Some brown
Cock: Average size cut

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AnswerI love, love, love barebacking!

The feeling that you get when your pleasuring a man by topping and feeling the control that you have over them! Woof!

Even when I bottom, I can feel there throbbing cock inside me, with every thrust the pump into me! There’s an ecstasy when you get when the top is going to blow there load in you…. I can’t get enough!

QuestionDo you have conditions under which you will bareback and under which you will not?

AnswerI have no conditions that have to be met in order for me to bareback and Truvada Link Opens in a New Window also helps in the barebacking realm of things. (Mark notes: Truvada is the anti-viral cocktail drug approved for use by negative people to prevent possible infection from HIV exposure. Opens new window of a page on this blog)

I ask one question: “Are you neg?”

Based on the way the client answers it, I can gauge how I will respond. Based on the answer to the status question, it can change whether I’m going to top or bottom. 

If the client is undetectable with can flip fuck until the cows come home. If they are poz, I’ll stick to just topping. I’ll bareback with poz and non-poz guys.

QuestionDo you charge more for barebacking?

AnswerI do not charge more for barebacking. I do get tipped extra at the end of the session for it on occasion — usually between an extra $25 to $50.

QuestionHow often do clients ask for it raw?

AnswerAbout every 10 clients, I have I would say seven or eight men prefer or asked to play bareback.

QuestionWhy do you bareback?

AnswerIn today’s society, it’s still considered taboo! Something we should not do… So it gives me a thrilling feeling when I do it!

It also gives a deeper connection with your mate at the time releasing all your inhibitions, which gets me off so easily — multiple times.

Getting it On with Greater Boston Jock

QuestionSo you’re versatile?

AnswerI am versatile. I love getting both ways! Why limit yourself to one? I like options in bed! And going back to my previous statement… I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE barebacking!

QuestionHow much do you cost?

AnswerMy normal rates are $200 for out calls, $800 for overnights and $2,000 for weekends. 

QuestionIs there any particular bareback clients who stand out?

AnswerI do have one memorable client in mind! He was different from the others. He was very passionate with me.

GreaterBostonJock-AssHe didn’t  want the one-hour-let’s-get-down-to-business-and-leave.  He wanted to be romanced and enjoy his time with me. Which oddly enough was fun!

It was different because he didn’t treat it like a transaction. It was more like we were temporary lovers!

QuestionIs escorting your only job?

AnswerI have a full time job. I actually run my own business as a souvenir photographer and I help out some friends selling luxury fur coats.

On occasion you will see me go-go dance at a night club or slinging back some hardcore drinks behind a bar!

QuestionHave you ever stealthed Opens new window of a page on this blog anyone? Has anyone stealthed you?

AnswerSince I ever started escorting, I never stealthed anyone. Unfortunately, I have been stealthed quite a few times… It comes with the territory and the job on hand.

QuestionWhat about doing porn?

AnswerI haven’t done any porn yet but been approached multiple times by porn scouts to do some. I’m interested in Treasure Island Media, Maverick Men and All Real Bareback.

QuestionWhat can a client do that will turn you on?

AnswerThe one thing a client can do is dive right in. Don’t treat like a transaction. Just do with the flow and enjoy the ride!

 

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Q&A: Truth Inside the Truth & the Truth When It Should Be a Lie

Q&A: Truth Inside the Truth & the Truth When It Should Be a Lie

Grindr-Hate-MessageHIV is a stigma. Don’t ask me. Ask someone who has it. Ask anyone who’s bold enough to actually put on their Grindr, Manhunt or Scruff profile that their Poz and see what happens. Here’s an example I used earlier of a friend of mine on Grindr who was messages for his profile which honestly revealed he’s Poz Opens new window of a page on this blog.

It’s bullshit.

Lately, I’ve gotten a couple of questions from readers who had issues involving Poz men, one making me think of this particular bias. I thought both were particularly telling and deserved to be told. Forgive me for sharing because I didn’t exactly ask these gentlemen’s permission, but I think I’ve averted anything devastating and I’m obscuring their identities.

Truth Inside the Truth:
Who Should Fuck Me, Poz or Undetectable?

QuestionI had only ever barebacked with boyfriends…. But I’m feeling that total slutty sex itch from deep within my hole and I kind of want to try bareback with a total stranger. Let’s face it: it was fucking hot, man! So, I joined BarebackRT.com Open-New-Window-External.

The first couple of days the only hits I got were from guys in the country and a couple of men in my home state, but several hundred miles away.

Today, I got hit up by two VERY hung tops, both within five miles of my home. One top says, “Undetectable.” The other says, “Positive.”

I really want to give it up again and I really want it to be raw, but  their status just scares me.

I almost hope I had never even looked at their status. I don’t know. I wonder if I would have even cared had I not known.

Which leads me to question whether or not I’m ready… A big part of me says, “Fuck it! Let’s do it!” But the other me says, “No.”

Advice?

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AnswerYou need to ease into this world you’re exploring. So much of what you’re been conditioned is that HIV Poz is bad and you’ll die if you get it. No matter how much you logically know that’s not true, you still have this embedded conditioning — and almost Pavlovian response — that creates and illogical fear of bareback sex.

It just isn’t true.

So let’s just break through this with a little more logic.

Men who are undetectable have technically at one point been exposed to HIV. However, their antiviral cocktails have been so effective that it’s resulted in repressing the virus so far down that a blood test cannot detect it.

Basically, these guys are now neg again.

HIV hasn’t disappeared from the body. However, the main route by which the the virus is transmitted lacks it.

Your chances of getting infected by an undetectable man are more than likely less than a man who claims he’s neg. Here’s why:

Neg men aren’t really that religious and consistent about having themselves checked for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. Neg men really don’t have a doctor hovering over blood tests to check all their levels and call them when a six-month test is missed.

HIV-neg men aren’t even notified or bothered about their next test by most gay doctors. And that’s the sexually active men who’ve bothered to tell their doctors they bareback.

Fuck, mine doesn’t even know I go raw. He lectures me but just assumes I’m using condoms.

You are so much safer with undetectable on a cocktail. There’s no guarantees. But just fuck it and go for it. You’ll be glad you did. Then in about six weeks, set up an appointment and keep it every three to six months.

Eventually, the guilt fades and your fear response will die down and you’ll just remember the fun.

 

Truth When It Should Be a Lie:
He Said, ‘Fuck Off, I Don’t Fuck Poz Bottoms!’

I get on Scruff and meet this fucking hot thirtysomething. We get to chatting and, bonus of all bonuses, he takes cock raw and tells me it’s his policy for the top not to pull out. I assure him that iBLASTinside (and he doesn’t get it — obviously, not a reader).

He can’t wait for me to fuck him bit I’m sort of booked for the afternoon when he says he only gets fucked twice a year.

“Twice a year?” I question. “You surely get fucked a lot more than that. You’re really hot.”

Well, he explains the Poz thing turns men off. And he’s a bit of a stickler on being honest and up front. He refuses to use a condom so he gets told more often to “fuck off” rather than to “get fucked.”

He doesn’t exactly ask a question, but it ends up I give him a bit of advice.

(Give your own answer! Scroll to the survey below Scroll Down.)

Answer(for advice) As it turns out, you’ve recently tested “undetectable.” This means that if the traditional HIV tests were run at this time, the virus could not be found in your blood — you’d appear essentially “negative” to people. 

At one point, you appeared positive, but if you said, “In my most recent tests, I came out ‘negative,’ you technically would not be lying.” This is especially true since you will be acting as the bottom.

I understand you have a conscious and you feel telling these random hook-ups — and that’s what they are — a random hook-up — that you’re negative and you’ve actually tested positive at one point may be considered a lie. But the risk you present to these slutty barebackers is almost non-existent.

Like I say above, it’s more risky for these guys to have sex with men who believe they’re neg but aren’t being tested all that often.

It is their own bias that drives them to say, “No” to you when chances are, several of the supposed “neg” guys aren’t neg at all. You’re safer to fuck than any of them.

Further, let’s look at it in another direction:

Let’s say your grandfather on your mother’s side was black. You look white. But the guy has one of those racist profiles that say, “Not into black guys. Sorry. Just how I am.” Technically, dude, you are a little black. Now he messages you because you look white. You’re attracted to him. You pass as white.

But the truth is, you are part black.

Do you tell him you’re black?

It’s not going to hurt him not to know. In fact, it might be a lot of fun.

What Do You Think?

Now it’s your turn to chime in. I’ve got three questions based on my advice. I want to see what you all think about my responses:

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What is stealthing?

What is Stealthing? Well this is one kind of Stealth

What is a stealth fuck? How do I stealth?

Stealthing is the practice by which one party in a sexual encounter believes the other is being “safer” and using a condom correctly but, in fact, the condom has somehow been compromised or removed during the fuck and the cum is injected into the bottom’s ass. Either the top or bottom may be the deceptive party in a stealthing.

Many methods to sabotage the condom or trick the other party for removal are available in My Top 10 Stealthing Techniques are available here. Opens a new window from this blog

I’ve also written a lot about men I’ve stealthed and the deceptive things I’ve done to get ass. You can see all my entries on stealthing hereOpens a new window from this blog

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