Survey: Half of You Jerks
I don’t have an ego. Some of you might be surprised to hear that, but I don’t. I am confident. I am proud. But you don’t hurt my ego if you hate me, despise me or react indifferently.
Curious, that I am. So when I asked whether you jerk off to the writings here, my ego didn’t rest with a chip on my shoulder.
Still, the answer proved to be compelling, especially discovering half of you jerk off “sometimes” to my blog. One out of five readers admitted to stroking the pole quite often and while slightly more said no fucking way do they read me and choke the chicken.
I did receive a few pieces of photographic evidence (thank you; illustrating some future posts!) but not an over abundance.
I appreciate the jerk, the liquid love and the replies of all sort.
Related posts:
Bug-chasers want to become infected — and reinfected — with HIV. As the Bareback Brotherhood grows, some people — severely mi...
So where have I been? Some of you might have seen me on Twitter with occasional posts. Not much elsewhere. As I've struggl...
Looking back on 2011, let us just say that the year that was is a year I would gladly not repeat. But I did give myself 11 Re...
Survey: Can Men (Especially Gay Ones) Be Monogamous?
If you look at the latest survey, the results are as divisive as the arguments for and against. While the “no” votes may have eked out a victory, the true winner may be the men who simply face facts: Men are pigs and we all cheat.
Former President Jimmy Carter infamously told Playboy magazine in 1976: “I’ve looked on a lot of women with lust. I’ve committed adultery in my heart many times.” Bill Clinton committed lust on a blue dress.
For the votes who selected “yes” in the survey, allow me to profile you. One or more of the following are likely true:
- You have never been in a long-term relationship (meaning more than a year).
- You are in a relationship less than two years old.
- You still have guilt issues surrounding your homosexuality.
- You count yourselves monogamous if you are both in the room (in other words, three-ways are cool).
- You consider yourself monogamous as long as you two only fuck each other (in other words, blow jobs and handjobs don’t count).
- You are in your twenties or possibly early thirties.
- Your balls were cut off in a horrible childhood accident that still haunts you.
- Your jealous boyfriend neutered you.
Okay, so maybe the last two were there for humor. Okay, the next to the last one was.
Monogamy is considered unnatural by some. Among mammals in nature, only 7 percent are monogamous (check Wikipedia for yourself). And considered that we, as gay men, attempt to remove the shackles of antiquated morality, once the chains are loosened, then we find ways to let our cock take the lead.
I have toyed with monogamy three times — in each of my three long-term relationships. Shocked? Don’t be. Every one of my relationships has opened my mind to new debauchery and I’m extremely blessed by them.
An emotional monogamy can work among the choices. If you can find a place where you both are happy, then you can find a good partner who will understand your limitations and not freak out when you eye the hot piece of ass across the room or jerk off to a good porn.
If you enter into any kind of monogamy, go with your eyes open and be honest with one another. And when one cheats cause he was really drunk or lonely on a business trip or got a handjob from his chiropractor, you won’t be emotionally scarred forever. Talk through it, forgive, have your own revenge fun, make up and revise your monogamy pact.
I imagine many will choose to participate in this debate. I’ve already received e-mails including a very nice one from a man, who wrote:
With age comes wisdom. The writer was wise. I wonder how many comments that follow will be wise as well.
Related posts:
At my best guess, I've bred a few more than 200 asses in 2010. Not bad. Not the goal I set for myself but the year went off t...
Help make Mark's birthday a little better while he's out of work with a donation. Learn more about the gift-giving effort...
Far from all the asses I loaded, these are among the most memorable of 2011. Sorry if you didn't make the list, but it gives ...
Survey: Some Men Get Slutty
Ask the question on how many men you’re planning to fuck around with in 2010, and the answers vary wildly with a few saying none and a selection promising more than 500. The truth probably lies somewhere in the middle.
Still, one out of four respondents hoped to have sex with at least 100 others and possibly much more. That’s the group I made it into during 2009. That means three out of four remained less than 100 potential sex partners. In fact, a third plans for 10 or less (and many of those will dedicate themselves to one).
Makes me think I should be inspired to write about monogamy, such as it exists in the gay community (you think Bill Clinton split philosophical hairs over Monica?!).
P.S. Thanks for all the check in, comments and well-wishers during my time off. I’m not sure when I’ll get inspired enough again to get back to writing on a regular basis. But if you’re so inclined, I always appreciate inspiration whether in e-mails, images or Formspring.Me questions.






