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Q&A: Truth Inside the Truth & the Truth When It Should Be a Lie

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Grindr-Hate-MessageHIV is a stigma. Don’t ask me. Ask someone who has it. Ask anyone who’s bold enough to actually put on their Grindr, Manhunt or Scruff profile that their Poz and see what happens. Here’s an example I used earlier of a friend of mine on Grindr who was messages for his profile which honestly revealed he’s Poz Opens new window of a page on this blog.

It’s bullshit.

Lately, I’ve gotten a couple of questions from readers who had issues involving Poz men, one making me think of this particular bias. I thought both were particularly telling and deserved to be told. Forgive me for sharing because I didn’t exactly ask these gentlemen’s permission, but I think I’ve averted anything devastating and I’m obscuring their identities.

Truth Inside the Truth:
Who Should Fuck Me, Poz or Undetectable?

QuestionI had only ever barebacked with boyfriends…. But I’m feeling that total slutty sex itch from deep within my hole and I kind of want to try bareback with a total stranger. Let’s face it: it was fucking hot, man! So, I joined BarebackRT.com Open-New-Window-External.

The first couple of days the only hits I got were from guys in the country and a couple of men in my home state, but several hundred miles away.

Today, I got hit up by two VERY hung tops, both within five miles of my home. One top says, “Undetectable.” The other says, “Positive.”

I really want to give it up again and I really want it to be raw, but  their status just scares me.

I almost hope I had never even looked at their status. I don’t know. I wonder if I would have even cared had I not known.

Which leads me to question whether or not I’m ready… A big part of me says, “Fuck it! Let’s do it!” But the other me says, “No.”

Advice?

(Give your own answer! Scroll to the survey below Scroll Down.)

 

AnswerYou need to ease into this world you’re exploring. So much of what you’re been conditioned is that HIV Poz is bad and you’ll die if you get it. No matter how much you logically know that’s not true, you still have this embedded conditioning — and almost Pavlovian response — that creates and illogical fear of bareback sex.

It just isn’t true.

So let’s just break through this with a little more logic.

Men who are undetectable have technically at one point been exposed to HIV. However, their antiviral cocktails have been so effective that it’s resulted in repressing the virus so far down that a blood test cannot detect it.

Basically, these guys are now neg again.

HIV hasn’t disappeared from the body. However, the main route by which the the virus is transmitted lacks it.

Your chances of getting infected by an undetectable man are more than likely less than a man who claims he’s neg. Here’s why:

Neg men aren’t really that religious and consistent about having themselves checked for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. Neg men really don’t have a doctor hovering over blood tests to check all their levels and call them when a six-month test is missed.

HIV-neg men aren’t even notified or bothered about their next test by most gay doctors. And that’s the sexually active men who’ve bothered to tell their doctors they bareback.

Fuck, mine doesn’t even know I go raw. He lectures me but just assumes I’m using condoms.

You are so much safer with undetectable on a cocktail. There’s no guarantees. But just fuck it and go for it. You’ll be glad you did. Then in about six weeks, set up an appointment and keep it every three to six months.

Eventually, the guilt fades and your fear response will die down and you’ll just remember the fun.

 

Truth When It Should Be a Lie:
He Said, ‘Fuck Off, I Don’t Fuck Poz Bottoms!’

I get on Scruff and meet this fucking hot thirtysomething. We get to chatting and, bonus of all bonuses, he takes cock raw and tells me it’s his policy for the top not to pull out. I assure him that iBLASTinside (and he doesn’t get it — obviously, not a reader).

He can’t wait for me to fuck him bit I’m sort of booked for the afternoon when he says he only gets fucked twice a year.

“Twice a year?” I question. “You surely get fucked a lot more than that. You’re really hot.”

Well, he explains the Poz thing turns men off. And he’s a bit of a stickler on being honest and up front. He refuses to use a condom so he gets told more often to “fuck off” rather than to “get fucked.”

He doesn’t exactly ask a question, but it ends up I give him a bit of advice.

(Give your own answer! Scroll to the survey below Scroll Down.)

Answer(for advice) As it turns out, you’ve recently tested “undetectable.” This means that if the traditional HIV tests were run at this time, the virus could not be found in your blood — you’d appear essentially “negative” to people. 

At one point, you appeared positive, but if you said, “In my most recent tests, I came out ‘negative,’ you technically would not be lying.” This is especially true since you will be acting as the bottom.

I understand you have a conscious and you feel telling these random hook-ups — and that’s what they are — a random hook-up — that you’re negative and you’ve actually tested positive at one point may be considered a lie. But the risk you present to these slutty barebackers is almost non-existent.

Like I say above, it’s more risky for these guys to have sex with men who believe they’re neg but aren’t being tested all that often.

It is their own bias that drives them to say, “No” to you when chances are, several of the supposed “neg” guys aren’t neg at all. You’re safer to fuck than any of them.

Further, let’s look at it in another direction:

Let’s say your grandfather on your mother’s side was black. You look white. But the guy has one of those racist profiles that say, “Not into black guys. Sorry. Just how I am.” Technically, dude, you are a little black. Now he messages you because you look white. You’re attracted to him. You pass as white.

But the truth is, you are part black.

Do you tell him you’re black?

It’s not going to hurt him not to know. In fact, it might be a lot of fun.

What Do You Think?

Now it’s your turn to chime in. I’ve got three questions based on my advice. I want to see what you all think about my responses:

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Who should the neg guy get fucked by?

  • Start with the undetectable guy like Mark Bentson suggested (26%, 59 Votes)
  • Skip both and try to find a neg guy (22%, 50 Votes)
  • Skip them all and stop barebacking all together (18%, 40 Votes)
  • Fuck everything you can find (17%, 39 Votes)
  • Fuck both undetectable and poz guys (9%, 20 Votes)
  • Start with the poz guy and get it over with (8%, 17 Votes)

Total Voters: 225

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If you're poz but undetectable, is it okay to tell a hookup you're actually neg?

  • Never (64%, 143 Votes)
  • Always (16%, 35 Votes)
  • I don't know (12%, 27 Votes)
  • Sometimes (8%, 20 Votes)

Total Voters: 225

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If your maternal grandmother was black but you look white and a hook-up says he doesn't like blacks, should you tell that hook-up you're part black?

  • Never (42%, 64 Votes)
  • Always (32%, 48 Votes)
  • I don't know (14%, 21 Votes)
  • Sometimes (12%, 19 Votes)

Total Voters: 152

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What’s Your 2012 Load Count?

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2012 is coming to an end. How did you end the year? With lots of cum in ass or blasting your DNA inside? Or did your barebacking keep under wraps, so to speak?

Polling Your Pole and Your Hole

For Bottoms (or Versatiles): How many loads do you estimate you took from different men in 2012?

  • I abstained in 2012 (or I'm a top) (17%, 40 Votes)
  • Between one and five (I'm a little picky) (16%, 39 Votes)
  • 21 to 50 juicy ones (I'm a slut, I know) (15%, 35 Votes)
  • 10 to 20 loads (at least one a month) (14%, 33 Votes)
  • Just one (a slow year or my ass if for one man) (11%, 26 Votes)
  • More than 250 (all cummers, always welcome) (9%, 22 Votes)
  • Between six and 10 (gotta be a nice cock) (8%, 19 Votes)
  • 101 to 250 bred my ass (I live for the loads) (6%, 15 Votes)
  • 51 to 100 jizz jets (two a week for this cum hound) (4%, 11 Votes)

Total Voters: 240

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For Bottoms who took more than 250 loads, what's your estimate for 2012?

  • 251 to 365 (about one a day on average) (32%, 8 Votes)
  • More than 3,001 (e-mail me please!!!) (28%, 7 Votes)
  • 366 to 750 (about two a day on average) (16%, 4 Votes)
  • 751 to 1,500 (damn boy, that ass is used!) (16%, 4 Votes)
  • 1,501 to 3,000 (now that's a super slut!!) (8%, 2 Votes)

Total Voters: 25

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For Tops (or Switch Hitters): How many different asses did you breed in 2012?

  • Between two and 10 (call it a monthly sampler) (30%, 44 Votes)
  • Just one (my cum is for one ass only) (17%, 25 Votes)
  • None (saving it up or I'm a bottom) (16%, 24 Votes)
  • Between 11 and 25 (two asses, twice a month) (12%, 17 Votes)
  • 51 to 100 (lots of places to plant) (8%, 11 Votes)
  • More than 201 (I fuck all holes) (8%, 11 Votes)
  • 26 to 50 (my seed needs a place to land) (6%, 9 Votes)
  • 101 to 200 (fertilizing the fields of plenty) (3%, 5 Votes)

Total Voters: 146

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Those are the only two new questions about 2012.

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Previous Questions and Answers

Here’s some previous poll questions. If you see responses, you’ve already answered them (so thanks!). If not, feel free to go ahead. It just gives me an idea about who reads my blog…

Do you bareback?

  • I always bareback (anyone & everyone) (29%, 319 Votes)
  • I mostly bareback (use a condom if he wants it) (23%, 255 Votes)
  • I sometimes bareback (just depends on the vibe) (15%, 168 Votes)
  • I only bareback with my partner/boyfriend (15%, 165 Votes)
  • I never bareback (but the stories are hot) (8%, 83 Votes)
  • I rarely bareback (it's only when I'm really horny) (5%, 53 Votes)
  • I bareback if I top, wrap it if I bottom (3%, 31 Votes)
  • I'll bareback if he shows me recent test results (2%, 21 Votes)
  • I hate barebacking (0%, 2 Votes)

Total Voters: 1,097

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Where do you fit?

  • Gay Male (83%, 859 Votes)
  • Bisexual Male (12%, 128 Votes)
  • Curious/Questioning Male (2%, 23 Votes)
  • Straight Male (1%, 12 Votes)
  • Male (Other Category) (0%, 4 Votes)
  • Male-to-Female Transgender (0%, 3 Votes)
  • Female (0%, 2 Votes)
  • Female-to-Male Transgender (2%, 2 Votes)

Total Voters: 1,033

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What's your position?

  • Mostly Bottom (23%, 236 Votes)
  • Total Bottom (22%, 230 Votes)
  • Versatile But Lean Bottom (17%, 174 Votes)
  • Mostly Top (10%, 105 Votes)
  • 50-50 Switch (10%, 104 Votes)
  • Versatile But Lean Top (8%, 82 Votes)
  • Total Top (8%, 81 Votes)
  • Virgin (2%, 21 Votes)

Total Voters: 1,033

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If you could, would you get fucked by Mark Bentson?

  • Absolutely yes. (45%, 412 Votes)
  • Maybe. (17%, 154 Votes)
  • Probably. (17%, 151 Votes)
  • Absolutely no. (13%, 119 Votes)
  • Probably not. (8%, 75 Votes)

Total Voters: 911

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What's your status?

  • HIV Negative (65%, 681 Votes)
  • HIV Positive But Undetectable (15%, 154 Votes)
  • Not Sure (9%, 96 Votes)
  • HIV Positive (6%, 63 Votes)
  • Don't Know, Don't Care (5%, 52 Votes)

Total Voters: 1,046

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How old are you?

  • 40 to 49 (27%, 279 Votes)
  • 30 to 39 (24%, 249 Votes)
  • 25 to 29 (15%, 156 Votes)
  • 50 to 59 (12%, 123 Votes)
  • 21 to 25 (11%, 118 Votes)
  • 18 to 21 (5%, 56 Votes)
  • Not yet 18 (3%, 27 Votes)
  • 60 to 69 (2%, 24 Votes)
  • 70 or older (1%, 8 Votes)

Total Voters: 1,040

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Do you take loads? (Select up to three answers)

  • I love taking loads in my ass all the time (39%, 390 Votes)
  • I take loads in my ass sometimes (24%, 237 Votes)
  • I love sucking and swallowing (19%, 191 Votes)
  • I keep cum inside my ass as long as possible (19%, 188 Votes)
  • I'm a top so I'm not taking any loads (11%, 106 Votes)
  • I empty my ass of cum after the fuck (5%, 50 Votes)
  • I don't bareback at all (5%, 47 Votes)
  • Fuck me bareback but cum on my back (4%, 39 Votes)
  • Fuck me bareback but cum in my mouth (3%, 33 Votes)
  • If cum is in my mouth, I'm spitting it out (3%, 31 Votes)

Total Voters: 1,005

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How do you give loads? (Select only one)

  • I almost always give loads in an ass bareback (30%, 275 Votes)
  • I'm a bottom, so it doesn't matter if I cum (24%, 221 Votes)
  • I give loads in whatever bareback hole is available (17%, 158 Votes)
  • I'm a bottom, so I just jerk off (16%, 149 Votes)
  • I prefer a blowjob and give loads in the mouth (8%, 71 Votes)
  • I'll fuck raw but I usually pull out to cum (3%, 32 Votes)
  • When I top, I don't fuck raw, but I'll jerk off into a hole (2%, 22 Votes)

Total Voters: 928

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Among the fuck stories, which topics do you find the HOTTEST? (Select just one)

  • Stealthing/Deceptive Fucking (40%, 389 Votes)
  • Young (Fucking 20s, legal teens) (15%, 142 Votes)
  • Gloryhole/Anonymous Sex (15%, 141 Votes)
  • Travel Diary Hook-Ups (14%, 134 Votes)
  • Adult Bookstore/Sex Club (9%, 86 Votes)
  • Dark Passenger/Molestation (5%, 44 Votes)
  • Ethnic (Fucking an Asian/Latin) (2%, 35 Votes)

Total Voters: 971

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Are you a member of the Bareback Brotherhood (#BBBH)?

  • No (75%, 623 Votes)
  • Yes (25%, 207 Votes)

Total Voters: 830

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What "type" and ethnicity would you categorize yourself? (Choose up to three)

  • Caucasian/White (62%, 562 Votes)
  • Normal/Average (27%, 240 Votes)
  • Cum Dump (17%, 156 Votes)
  • Geek/Nerd (14%, 128 Votes)
  • Bear (12%, 110 Votes)
  • Athlete/Jock (10%, 88 Votes)
  • Chub (8%, 71 Votes)
  • Asian (8%, 69 Votes)
  • Boy (7%, 64 Votes)
  • Young (7%, 62 Votes)
  • Cub (7%, 60 Votes)
  • Daddy (7%, 60 Votes)
  • Exhibitionist (6%, 58 Votes)
  • Latino/Hispanic (6%, 54 Votes)
  • Married Man (6%, 50 Votes)
  • Twink (5%, 44 Votes)
  • African-American/Black (4%, 40 Votes)
  • Dominant (4%, 38 Votes)
  • Voyeur (4%, 33 Votes)
  • Beef (3%, 30 Votes)
  • Mixed Race (3%, 24 Votes)
  • Muscle (3%, 24 Votes)
  • Skinhead (1%, 13 Votes)
  • Femme (1%, 12 Votes)
  • Redneck (1%, 11 Votes)
  • Cowboy (1%, 10 Votes)
  • Arab/Arab-American (1%, 9 Votes)
  • Pocket (1%, 6 Votes)
  • Old/Grandpa (0%, 2 Votes)

Total Voters: 903

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How often do you read iBLASTinside.com?

  • 2-5 times a week (20%, 174 Votes)
  • This is my first time here (19%, 167 Votes)
  • 2-3 times a month (13%, 114 Votes)
  • Once a week (11%, 96 Votes)
  • Sometimes when I want to jerk off (9%, 76 Votes)
  • Daily (8%, 75 Votes)
  • When I see a notice on social media (6%, 56 Votes)
  • Once a month (5%, 48 Votes)
  • Rarely (5%, 47 Votes)
  • When it pops up on an RSS feed (4%, 32 Votes)

Total Voters: 885

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Travel Diary: The Honest Hot Chest

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He proved to be the only man who never lied to me. Coming from a link up on BBRT, I’d noticed him in a geographic search and he’d come up less than 15 miles away — a feat indeed. We did the normal exchange and he wanted to come for a fuck.

A mix between Asian and Latino, his photos seemed more Asian, but when he arrived, he spoke with a thick Latin accent. He stood pretty damn short too at five-foot-three inches and a shaved bald head. Despite his age in his early 40s, his skin was smooth and taut over his muscles as he stripped and we got right down for business.

No chit chat with him, he climbed up and as I reached for his pecs, I soon learned the key to his ass would be his pecs and nipples.

Years ago, I’d experienced a boyfriend with nipples so sensitive that I learned to cause him to shoot just but playing with them. It’s a skill I’ve never lost since the door opener to the poop chute tends to be the nipple highway.

So as I worked his nips, he began to grind on my cock against his hole.

I didn’t take long for some spit to find its way to my cock, for him to take a hit off some poppers sitting on my night stand and for him to impale himself.

This man meant business. Truth is, he probably wasn’t all into me in general. But a hard cock is good to find and he was willing to overlook the dislike for a ride on my cock.

And rode it he did. For a mixture of Asian and Latin, his accent might have been Latin but his cock was all Asian. He leaned forward to allow his slight belly to  pin his cock between his  and mine. No hands needed. As I played with his nipples and he just rode my cock with increasing pace, he soon began to proclaim he’d be coming soon.

I felt his tight little hole clench down in pace with the cum shooting out from the head that poked between our bellies.

He climbed off, taking a break and wiping off the cum, not that it bothered me at all.

“So how would you like to cum?” he asked.

“In your ass, ” I answered. “On your stomach.”

I knew he was a little reluctant, but he still laid down and I climbed on top, sliding my cock into his hole. I took a  popper snort.

I began going to town. He grunts were not ones of pleasure but of discomfort. Not that it mattered. He offered. I was going to take what was mine. In a moment, I was asking whether he wanted my load in his ass.

“YES!” he said emphatically. “PLEASE!”

And that put me over the edge. I began pumping my DNA into his ass. I made sure to push it in deep for good measure.

After I finished, he showered and tried to shit it out, as I hear him in my hotel room. Not that it mattered. I’ve learned to make  sure to maker my territory well.

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Travel Diary: Headed Home

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Three nights and four loaded asses later, I’m headed home. Interestingly enough, I’d written the “Lies Men Tell” Parts One, Two and Three a little while back but hadn’t scheduled them to run. In fact, I’d written the first drafts before Las Vegas and my first big Catfish.

Of the four men I bred this trip, two had one of the lies and one had two lies in their pocket.

Still, I bred them for whatever reason. Quick and dirty, pump and dump. Not proud and it fucking pisses me off a little.

All men lie. I lie too to get ass. They lie to get dick. I’m not surprised.

Beyond that, this trip to the San Francisco Bay area was a buffet of boy ass. I had lots of options, just chose the wrong ones. There was a private gloryhole of which I wish I’d taken advantage.

Anyway, Atlanta, here I come again. My next trip will be interesting. If you haven’t checked out my travel schedule on BarebackRT.com, you should. It’s not in the U.S. Here’s a graphical hint.

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