Help Make My Birthday a Little Brighter… (Okay, a Little Sleazier)

Help Make My Birthday a Little Brighter… (Okay, a Little Sleazier)

This week has been tough.

I’m not saying this for sympathy. It’s simply fact as much as anything else.

Officially, I’ve passed a few milestones since my departure from my previous position of employment. For those of you not keeping up, I got released for being Gay. Yes, this is perfectly legal. No, I could not pursue legal action.

This week, not only have I attempted to get jobs at more than 75 companies, I’ve now been unemployed for four months.

Now, let’s be clear, I am talented in my job and I get interviews. But bizarre shit keeps happening and I just can’t seem to get beyond certain points. Like this week. I’m progressing well with this company and everything is going well. The phone interviews are just rocking. I’m invited in. With meticulous details, I get ready, making sure I present myself in the best light. My interview is at 2 p.m. I walk in the door at 1:52 p.m., ready to go, cell phone on silent, a smile on my face.

A few minutes after 2, I’m escorted back and sit down with the Human Resources person, with whom all the conversations have taken place.

I will not meet the hiring manager after all. This person left a message during lunch, about two hours prior to my arrival, that an internal candidate would be chosen for the job. In the end, I guess it’s good I didn’t waste my time on a pity interview, which I’d at first preferred because I’m that confident my skills could have blown the internal candidate out of the water.

Such has been the case. One job opportunity lost boiled down to the fact I didn’t have enough Twitter followers on my safe for work account and the hiring manager didn’t even want to talk to me (maybe I should have showed him @iblastinside).

The severance is gone, savings is almost gone and my 44th birthday approaches.

I started the Bareback Brotherhood #BBBH on my site at my expense. I’ve tried to supplement it with advertising but so far, I’ve not found readers really come to my blog for that, so I’m considering not continuing.

In the scheme of all the crap going down, I want a fun day doing something interesting and unusual. No one has provided me with any ideas, so I’m still looking for some ideas. Any donated funds go to fulfilling something incredible… just for me. No job hunting. No worrying about anything. Could be fucking. Could be something else. Just looking for ideas. Got any? Donate an idea! Donate a little fundage!

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  1. there are a few websites u could try. it’s real hot stuff, getting drained regularly myself.

  2. Do you know where I can get one?

  3. u should get a cash slave to exploit!

  4. I just started following your blog and I am really impressed.

    I can sympethise with yoiu on the job search. My partener lost his job due to downsizing in 2009, and has yet to find meaninful employment in his field. He has interviewed and many times the company decides to go with an internal candidate. He gets frustrated but keeps looking. Something will come up for you and for him.

    I wish you the best of luck, and now each time I visit the site, I will click and ad!

  5. I hope your collecting unemployment. I am not sure how the rules are for other states but I was let go from my last job and I still got unemployment because rather than fight it most employers will just not show up for the appeal hearing if your denies benefits initially and then appeal the denial. A company firing someone for being gay sure would not like the publicity it would generate if someone tipped of the media to the fact that they were also fighting giving your unemployment benefits.